???"The One"???

  1. To all of you who've chosen your "life partner..."

    How did you know he/she was "the one," and how long did it take for you to realize it?

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  3. by   live4today
    Uhhhh...like Elizabeth Taylor...I have yet to find my lifelong partner...and he obviously has yet to find me...STILL WAITING...Mr.Right, where are you?
  4. by   LasVegasRN
    I have come to believe they are extinct.
  5. by   Sleepyeyes
    oooohhh.....have I got a recipe for YOU!!!

    I not only had to kick my first husband out, I had to prosecute him. He got a slap on the wrist for it. I hated men.

    I didn't even date for 18 months. Then I refused to have much to do with any men at all. I decided that if God didn't personally talk to me about a man, the "relationship" was toast.

    Five years later, I'm sitting in a bar, staring at a hunk who looked like one of the Chippendales....daydreaming....while we chatted.
    Suddenly, this enormous feeling of peace spread through me, and I heard a quiet voice say, "You can have a relationship with him if you want."

    I was so freaked (I was in a bar! I was drunk! I was either losing my mind or---could it be? God just told me that this guy was not too young, not too cute, for me).

    I didn't go out of the house for three weeks.

    He called me one morning when I was getting the kids ready for school to ask me out. We went out and basically have been inseparable ever since.

    So I'm naturally all for praying for the right guy or girl. It worked for me, and that was 13 years ago. :kiss --God Bless!

    PS. God only talked to me one other time in my life, just so you know that I'm not the type to hear voices.
    Last edit by Sleepyeyes on Jul 3, '02
  6. by   pkmom
    I sat in on one of my husbands classes and saw him teach. He has such energy, passion and love for those kids, I just knew he was it.
  7. by   Beach_RN
    I knew my hubby was the one after 3 days..... I came home from 3rd date in a row with him that week and told my Mom... " I'm Going To Marry Him" She said I was crazy..... we were engaged a year to the date..... and married the following year..... 12 years later.. He's still the one!
  8. by   live4today
    Originally posted by Sleepyeyes
    .................................................. .................................................. PS. God only talked to me one other time in my life, just so you know that I'm not the type to hear voices.

    Girlfriend...pleeezzz, who are you kiddin'! You know you hear those voices all the time. 'fess up now! I do!
  9. by   night owl
    I knew after a couple of weeks or so because it was just an easy relationship. Things seemed very natural when we were together, almost like he was made for me and I for him. Sounds korney I know, but it just felt right. After 17 years, we're still life partners.
    I don't know what it was, I just knew.

    The first time I ever spoke to him, I didn't really hear what he was saying, because I was wondering what our kids were gonna look like.

  11. by   live4today
    I thought I had my life's partner when I married at 18 and stayed married for 18 years to the same man. The question must have been "Did HE find the right partner. Obviously NOT...or he'd still be my husband.

    Marriage is NO JOKE...so treat each other well...and don't be afraid to see change in your spouse and share your feelings with him/her about your findings. Looks grow old, but true kinship of the heart never dies. :kiss

    Now, 12 years into my second marriage, I knew before I said "I DO" that "I DIDN'T"...but I did it anyway for my children' sake. Now...I'm feeling a bit like Elizabeth Taylor...who...like me...manages to remain great friends with her exes, but finds the urge to move on to fresher pastures when she gets bored with the old. Haven't figured this out yet about myself...but I'm not running away from what I feel...I am trying to look within and not without to see what it is within me that makes me this way. Any suggestions Allnurses family? :kiss
    Last edit by live4today on Jul 3, '02
  12. by   KaraLea
    One of my sister-in-laws says that when she first met Kyle, she thought he was "Cocky". He says that he thought she was "Stuck up". Well, they now have a 20mo old son and another on the way.

    My other sister-in-law was the single parent of a 3mo old daughter when Kevin met her. To this day, he says that he married her because "she could make pretty babies".

    My oldest brother was married (divorced now). He says that he is looking but hasn't found anyone yet.

    As for me...I think good men are either taken allready, or they've become extinct.
  13. by   LilgirlRN
    I married my HS sweetheart when I was 19, I loved him but I knew right before I headed down the ailse that I was making a mistake. I went through with the wedding because I didn't want to look like an idiot and my parents had spent money they didn't really have to throw a wedding for me. There were about 200 folks there. 3 months later through no fault of my own, I was pregnant, despite BC pills. So, I made the decision that I would stay married until my family was grown. I didn't tell my husband of my unhappiness. I didn't think anyone ever knew that I was miserable, I didn't know that he was miserable too. He found himself a GF and we ended up divorced 2 years ago. We were married for 21 years. To answer your question, find someone that you can tell anything to, find your very best friend and marry him/her (i dunno what sex you are). Without communication, you have nothing. Good luck on your endeavor, Wendy
  14. by   Sleepyeyes
    Originally posted by cheerfuldoer

    Girlfriend...pleeezzz, who are you kiddin'! You know you hear those voices all the time. 'fess up now! I do!
    That's ok, renee. We "pennycostal holy rollers" are used to being laughed at for our beliefs.

    That's ok. I used to laugh about God being real too.
    Last edit by Sleepyeyes on Jul 3, '02