<sigh> I'm a pain in the rear to my family. *RANT* - page 2

Well most of you have heard about my driving situation . . . and yes I am seriously thinking about geting my license, but I do not want to drive on this rural road to my house, it's windy, and there... Read More

  1. by   Rustyhammer
    I'm sorry Mandi but what I'm hearing is excuses.
    I know you are afraid but the only way you can conquer this fear is by getting out there and doing it!
    The sooner you get out there and drive the sooner you will gain the freedom and independence you crave.
    I'm sure your parents will be glad to go out there and cruise with you until you feel confident to do it on your own.
    May the force be with you.
    -Russell
  2. by   semstr
    Zoe, I am quite a bit over 16 and don't have a license.
  3. by   Furball
    Mandi,

    The kids who have respect for the possibility of accidents, like you, probably (definitely) have fewer accidents than the bravado, can do anything, crazy teenaged driver....right?

    I was a nervous wreck starting out to drive....but guess what? After 24 years I've never crashed....not even a bumper bump.

    My dad threw me in "sink or swim" he said.

    Just remember....most accidents are preventable. Be a defensive driver. I pretend that the drivers out there are idiots and expect them to do anything crazy. When the light turns green look for the driver speeding thru the red light, slow down in the rain, snow. Keep your distance from the car ahead of you....double or even triple the distance during rain/snow. You can do it!

    Can you back off work temporarily and have your parents take you out driving instead?
    Last edit by Furball on Dec 29, '02
  4. by   kids
    I am pretty sure it is in the job description for teenages to be a PITA to parents. Eventually you will out grow it and your parents will *like* you again...I think most any of us on the board that have raised teenages will agree with me.

    girl child is 22: failed drivers ed X2 at 16. Went to a private driving school when she was 17 and passed (you have to pass drivers ed or turn 18 to get your license here). She finally bothered to actually start driving and got her license and bought a car when she was almost 21.

    #1 boy child is 19: has never taken drivers ed, has had several learners permits and has taken the written test (and passed) 4 times. Has a car he loves, sitting in the drive way waiting for him, he occasionally starts it and drives it up and down the drive way. 3 years ago I let him drive me to the mail box...some moron hit us and totaled my car. He has not driven a car out of our driveway since and has no real desire to drive-ever.

    boy child #2 is 18: he would gladly surrender a testicle if *only* I would let him drive...keep in mind he has severe ADD and hx of a TBI and has a functional age of 14. He wants a motor cycle, a fast one or a Porsche, either way he wants to go 150 mph. Fortunately we have a rule...the kids get their drivers licenses in birth order and only after the next oldest has gotten theirs...he may never get to drive.
  5. by   BadBird
    Mandi,

    You seem like you have a lot on your plate for at 17yr. old. Your parents have every right to plan their days even if it means sitting on the porch. If you want to work and go to nursing school then you must get a drivers license. My son got his at 18, I stopped driving him to and from work so he found a job within walking distance for a year before he took his test. I suggest you start by taking Drivers Education, Sears teaches it, or you can call AAA office. The more you drive the less fear you will have, of course that doesn't mean you shouldn't be a defensive driver. Just curious, if you are in highschool, how many hours do you work in a week? Is there a job closer to home that you could do? Being a parent is not easy, just put that in your memory bank for the future and don't blame your parents for not wanting to drive you.
  6. by   rncountry
    Mandi where do you live? I live in rural Michigan and without a car there isn't much one can do. I'm with Rusty here, I hear only excuses.
    My oldest child is 19 and in college now. He has been driving since he was 15 when I took him out to the high school parking lot and we started practicing. I don't know what the laws are in your state, but in Michigan you must drive for 50 hours with a licensed driver and ten of those hours have to be at night, before a kid can take the driver's test. Have your parents taken you out driving? I'll tell you there were times with my oldest child that I thought I would have heart failure with him driving and me in the car, but we survived. Ray has had one accident, not his fault. A woman turned the wrong way on a one way road in Kalamazoo and smacked into him. But let me tell you something from a parent's perspective. Yes, there are things that we must do for our children but there is a point in time when they have to get going on their own. This has been a hard lesson for my son to learn and I'm sure there are times he thinks I am the wicked witch of the west. Told him the other day that when I was his age I had not only moved from home I was married and living 1000 miles from home taking care of my own house, bills and life. I think it is great that you are being responsible and working as long as it does not interfere with your grades in school. That was always my caveat with my oldest. Work is ok as long as grades don't suffer, and he had to drive himself to his job. It was his choice to work, not mine, and I was not going to work all day myself and then have to drive him to a job, come home cook dinner and take care of my younger child. It is a hard thing to realize but life does not revolve around you and your needs. Parents are people too with wants and needs separate from yours. Particularly by the time when you are 17 and nearly a legal adult.
    Can you take driver's ed through school? Is there a cost involved? I know here driver's ed can be done through the school and it costs $125. The only thing that is going to change this situation is you. Take the bull by the horns and do what you need to do.
  7. by   Rustyhammer
    RNCountry,
    You always say it best.
    -Russell
  8. by   kristi915
    Ok, I'm tired of all this whining and complaining. You see all these people around you? These people are nurses, quite higher in rank than you are. These fellow nurses work just as much as you do, or even more than you, BUT do you hear THEM complaining? The men and women on this board have husbands/wives, and children......these people are working 24-7 with their families and jobs combined! I applaud you fellow nurses who do not complain, but rather do your job.

    I have lost so many friends because of car accidents, VERY close friends. I am also 17 and I have had my license since June. I work 20 hours a week and go to school 8 hours of my day. You need to step up to the ******* plate and hit a damn home run......GO GET YOUR LICENSE.

    Look at it this way: if you get into an accident, you get into an accident, you can't control that. You can get into an accident while riding w/ your parents, friends, family memebers. What dosn't kill you will only make you stronger. It sure as h*ll isn't going to kill you to just TRY!!
  9. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    ^5
  10. by   memphispanda
    Well, it's like the old commercial says..."Just DO it!" You won't ever get experience driving if you don't drive. You have to get out there and try! Do you have your permit? If so, then why not drive yourself to/from work with supervision? Then you will get experience and have a support person with you. You can't blame your family for getting a bit irritated with it all--they have a life too, and if you are constantly asking them to take you here and there, it keeps them from doing what they need/want to do. I have a feeling that once you actually get out there and DO it, you will be wondering what you were making such a big deal about.
  11. by   tattooednursie
    Here a learners permit is 6 months of driving with a licensed driver over the age of 25. I turn 18 in less than 6 months anyways, and driving with my parents NOOOOO WAAAY.
  12. by   tattooednursie
    I have driven, and it scares the hell out of me. I have tried.
  13. by   alwaysthere
    Sometimes life will scare the hell outa you...face your fear and conquer it. There is no room in life for quitters, for excuse makers....life WILL teach you this very quickly.

    Learn to drive with someone who is as calm as Spock and has the Patience of Methuselah......and who you are calm with.....

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