I don't know who to turn or what to do. Worst case senario - my mother has bulimia. It all started when she was gaining alot of weight and my dad had pushed her into 'losing weight' so much that she's always losing weight by vomiting. The thing is that i'm only 19 -- and my mom thinks that no one in the family suspects anything of her doing. when any of us tell her about it she always shrugs it off like its nothing. I know this is a real problem, but as a daughter, she doesn't want to listen to me. When my older sister tried to address my mom about it....she was like 'okay okay I'll stop, I know it's wrong." But lately I can tell that my mom is still routinely vomiting up the food; and she eats very little everyday.
How can we get it out of her head that this can affect her? Please help....I don't know where to turn!
What should I do as a daughter??
Jun 23, '02
I can relate to your frustration!!! My sister, in her youth, had a horrible problem with anorexia and bulemia.
I used to try and try and try to reason with her to eat better. Didn't work. A few times, I even screamed at her to eat better. Only made her vomit more.
It's scary and extremely frustrating. My sister, in my eyes, was slowly killing herself. . . . . . and there was NOTHING I could do to prevent her from doing the things she was doing (or not doing, like eating!) to herself.
At one point in my life, I went to counseling. I don't recommend this to everyone. It is not for everyone. Finally, not every counselor is good. However, I did manage to find one who was very good for me.
I basically had to learn that I couldn't control how my sister eats or doesn't eat. Trust me, it was a hard lesson for me to learn!
I now enjoy a better relationship with my sister. She's in her 30's and I believe she still has an "eating problem". But she's alive. . . and she seems happy. We now enjoy eachother's company and slowly but surely we're becoming more involved in eachother's life in a "positive" way.
One suggestion. I believe that there are support groups out there for family members who have loved ones with eating problems. I don't know the name of the support group. However, if you contact O.A. (Overeater's Anonymous), they might be able to help you. At the very least, you'll find out that you are not alone. . . . and that you don't have to survive an experience like this by yourself. There is some wonderful support out there to be found. . . .
Hope this helps.
Last edit by Ted on Jun 25, '02