I'm hurt and angry, and I didn' t know who else would understand but other nurses. My husband is facing lay-offs in the near future. I know it scares him and I know we have to bank money, which we are, but I guess not fast enough for him. He seems to resent my days off, even though I am the one doing all the bill-paying, grocery-shopping, cleaning at home and any child-related tasks for our three daughters.
My husband has ALWAYS been of the opinion that my work can not be any more stressful than what he does dealing with computers and surly vendors in the IT world. He says that his work is every bit as life and death as mine. I have tried to explain to him that yes, if he doesn't get a computer working then on down the line someone might not get lab results or get their meds as fast, but it is NOT the same as what I do. He refuses to appreciate what kind of pressure I'm under on a fast-paced cardiopulmonary stepdown unit with people often circling the drain.
Even though he gets every weekend off and does almost nothing during them, I'm apparently supposed to work my 3-12's (which I'm sorry, but 12 hour shifts kill me. We live an hour away from the hospital, and it ends up being a 14-15 hour day for me when I work one. I start counting the moment I have to get out of bed and get ready, the drive, etc. It's all part of it!) and then now, because I have so much extra time off during the week, pick up more shifts to make more money. I am tired of coming home sore, miserable and exhausted to no food and a dirty house to be told that I surely can pick up MORE shifts!
Anyone else have to cope with a spouse who never gets how hard nursing is, or won't get it, and thinks it's a great deal to work ONLY 3-12's and have four days off a week?
Just venting...feeling pretty unappreciated and blue. I was a stay at home mom for 14 years and it has been a really hard adjustment to become a nurse. I have doubted my sanity a number of times. Now I just feel underpaid and undercared about so I can have my ass run off for 12 hour shifts and get told at home I ought to work more and put more money in savings.