When your adult child makes the headlines....for the wrong reasons - page 2

So this article is more about handling BIG public embarrassment versus the little embarrassments of life with children. We've all experienced the toddler with the tantrum at the grocery store and... Read More

  1. by   nrsang97
    Trauma all I have to offer is hugs.
  2. by   RNinIN
    Just went through it myself......lost my job a few days before his arrest so no $$ for lawyer. He ended up C felony, but only probation and fines. At 22 y/o, I told him I love him, but this was his baby. He now lives with my mom, and is putting his life back together. Hopefully, he will keep things going in the right direction
  3. by   imintrouble
    No one on earth can wound you like your children.
    I'm sorry yours has hurt you. Hugs to you.
  4. by   toomuchbaloney
    I was the sibling of the adult child who ended up in federal penitentiary for a couple of decades. My parents spent too much of their retirement savings trying to help him with legal fees, which meant that our mother worked nearly to the day she died. He was still incarcerated, in another state when she did finally lose her struggle with COPD. That could not have been easy for him.

    Now he is out, trying to put together a life as a 35 year old male. He is graduating with honors this summer from Notre Dame. Our mother would have been proud. She was always very private about him and his circumstances with "friends" and co-workers. On some level she was embarrassed as appearances were terribly important to her.

    His relationship with myself and our brother and sister is distant. Trust is a difficult thing to rebuild from long distance.

    Good luck to you.
  5. by   NDXUFan
    As a former police officer, excellent advice.
  6. by   NDXUFan
    Love thee Notre Dame, cousin was starting offensive lineman with Rudy, GO IRISH!!!!!!!!!!
  7. by   mejsp
    So many times we call ourselves Christian and forget that GRACE thing. We've all missed the mark and fallen
    short, made mistakes and hurt people.

    Your son is fortunate to have you in his corner. The image we have of God is influenced by the important people in our formative years. How fortunate for your son that you are with him for the long haul. Its said that there are no atheists in foxholes. My guess is the same goes for the incarcerated. You have a prodigal son. You are the forgiving mother. Unconditional love is a thing of beauty, but it isn't easy. I appreciate your story. I wish it was a work of fiction instead of your reality. I applaud your kindness and appreciate your humility and vulnerability in sharing.

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