Porn & Video Games - Manhood crisis

  1. Porn and video game addiction are leading to 'masculinity crisis', says Stanford prison experiment psychologist - Science - News - The Independent


    Giving an example of the mindset of a gaming and pornography-addicted young man, he says: "When I'm in class, I'll wish I was playing World of Warcraft. When I'm with a girl, I'll wish I was watching pornography, because I'll never get rejected."
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  2. 26 Comments

  3. by   ElvishDNP
    Ah yes, the double-edged sword of technology.

    It's easy to fall prey to, even as adults.
  4. by   No Stars In My Eyes
    Pretty damn sad.
  5. by   Thunderwolf
    This actually leads to the point as to why embedding socially enriching relationships in one's life are so important. The danger with technology, especially with teens and young adults, is that it can become fairly easily to become self absorbed into it, at the detriment of our relations that surround us. Good example are smart phones and texting addiction. People are losing the skill and the art and the enrichment of interacting with intentional meaning via communicating face to face. Their language of communication has also changed as a result of this self absorption, where rich verbal communication has transitioned into text speak and short bursts of text acknowledgements. With self absorption, alienation and feelings of loneliness may become our byproducts. Several years ago, I was at a shopping mall and spied a couple holding hands, each on their smart phones talking with someone else. If they hadn't been holding hands, you would be hard pressed to know that they were a couple. I kept bumping into this couple over and over and over again in the mall, with phones pressed to their ears, not looking or speaking to their partner, only holding hands. They are connected, but not connecting. They are verbal, but not to each other. They are looking around as they speak, but not to each other. The only thing that identified them as a couple was the hand hold. It could mean that they held each other's hand because they felt solid with each other as they did their own thing....or could mean that it was the only thing that held them together as they became so self absorbed without the other. It was very hard to say or know. Technology can bring us together or have us drift apart from meaningful relationships right in front of us. Gaming and Porn can often be like Smart Phones. With self absorption, we stop growing...personally and interpersonally. We can become stunted and isolated. So, making a point to make time to place people in our lives with uninterrupted downtown to communicate face to face in order to practice being...human....is so important. Terribly important.
  6. by   Farawyn
    Maybe they held hands so they wouldn't trip over anyone else while absorbed in their phones.

    I'm addicted. I do have really good RL relationships, but yea. I always have my phone.
  7. by   Farawyn
    Let me clarify to say I'm addicted to TEXTING not to porn.
  8. by   poppycat
    When my 4 year old grandson is at home, his parents pull out all the electronic toys for him to entertain himself. When he's with me, he's not allowed to have any of those. I have lots of un-tech (is that a word?) toys that require him to interact with me & my hubs. We build Legos, play "Cootie", hide & seek, tag, etc., etc. He never even asks about his electronic toys when he's with us. He is also able to carry on some pretty in-depth conversations.

    I always have my phone with me, too, but if I start looking at things on it, he tells me "don't do that, play with me". So I put my phone away & we play.

    I really don't see any reason why a 4 year old needs his own phone & tablet other than his parents are kind of lazy.
  9. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from Farawyn
    Let me clarify to say I'm addicted to TEXTING not to porn.



    Quote from poppycat
    When my 4 year old grandson is at home, his parents pull out all the electronic toys for him to entertain himself. When he's with me, he's not allowed to have any of those. I have lots of un-tech (is that a word?) toys that require him to interact with me & my hubs. We build Legos, play "Cootie", hide & seek, tag, etc., etc. He never even asks about his electronic toys when he's with us. He is also able to carry on some pretty in-depth conversations.

    I always have my phone with me, too, but if I start looking at things on it, he tells me "don't do that, play with me". So I put my phone away & we play.

    I really don't see any reason why a 4 year old needs his own phone & tablet other than his parents are kind of lazy.
    Me either. Spidey doesn't have a cell phone and he's 14.
  10. by   Tweety
    Parents of another generation were just as lazy planting their kids in front of cartoons, their VCR, etc. so the kids could entertain themselves while mom/dad did chores and whatnot.

    Electronics is the millennial version of that. My great nieces love to draw, play games, be outside, walk the dogs and interact. They also have electronic devices and some sort of iPad like thingie that has games and other things. I don't think this is a bad thing as the real world they are coming up in is an electronic one and this prepares them for that. We can pine for the days prior to electronics, but what is that? We were the generation that grew up in front of a TV.

    My niece is nine years old and has a phone. She's texted me a time or two and I'm not sure what her restrictions are on it, but her millennial aged mother is quite strict and involved and certainly not lazy.

    My two cents.
  11. by   Tweety
    I have my thoughts on "porn addiction" that I'll keep to myself. I suppose there is a thing, but if watching porn caused issues 99.999% of men would be in trouble. LOL

    Tech distraction is a problem. I keep my cell phone in my bag in the break room and check it when I'm on lunch and then again when I leave. Many of my coworkers are constantly checking their phone, texting, and looking at Facebook. It's a problem.
  12. by   Farawyn
    Quote from Tweety
    I have my thoughts on "porn addiction" that I'll keep to myself. I suppose there is a thing, but if watching porn caused issues 99.999% of men would be in trouble. LOL

    Tech distraction is a problem. I keep my cell phone in my bag in the break room and check it when I'm on lunch and then again when I leave. Many of my coworkers are constantly checking their phone, texting, and looking at Facebook. It's a problem.
    I didn't say I was against porn. I said I wasn't addicted to it.

    My kids are very much the same, Tweety. They've always played sports, and have been lucky enough to grow up in a neighborhood where there were tons of kids and they would bop from house to house. Since we live near the water, they got their boating licenses at age 12 and 14, and take the boat out. Yet, they love their phones, and many nights they spend down the basement with their friends playing video games.
    As long as they have real life, I'm fine with the technology. I'm sure they've seen stuff they "shouldn't" have. I did too, at that age. That's life.
    Both my boys are respectful to me and other women, and have lots of girls as friends. I'm not too worried about porn ruining their lives.
  13. by   Tweety
    Quote from Farawyn
    I didn't say I was against porn. I said I wasn't addicted to it.

    My kids are very much the same, Tweety. They've always played sports, and have been lucky enough to grow up in a neighborhood where there were tons of kids and they would bop from house to house. Since we live near the water, they got their boating licenses at age 12 and 14, and take the boat out. Yet, they love their phones, and many nights they spend down the basement with their friends playing video games.
    As long as they have real life, I'm fine with the technology. I'm sure they've seen stuff they "shouldn't" have. I did too, at that age. That's life.
    Both my boys are respectful to me and other women, and have lots of girls as friends. I'm not too worried about porn ruining their lives.
    I didn't quote you, so I'm not sure why you're addressing me about porn. LOL. I was addressing the concept expressed in the original post.
  14. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from Tweety
    I didn't quote you, so I'm not sure why you're addressing me. I was addressing the concept expressed in the original post.
    This is an old thread.


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