Parents of Single Fathers--tell your stories

  1. Hi everyone. I am the mother of a single father who is having no luck in trying to spend time with his daughter. This has been going on for a year. My husband and I have found there's absolutely nothing we can do except be supportive. We miss our granddaughter and haven't spoken to her or seen her in ages. For us, it's a hurt that is huge--we see our son hurting and also are hurting inside ourselves too.

    It occurs to me that there are no doubt many other grandparents who are having this problem, and I am thinking of writing a book about it. I was thinking I would write a chapter for each story I receive. If you are interested, please email me at I'll get back to you as soon as possible. Also, please pass this on to anyone else you think might be interested.

    Thanks alot!
  2. 3 Comments

  3. by   Thanet
    I am a bit confused here. If your son is a single father why does he have problems spending time with his daughter?

    BTW I am a single father with a 13 y-o son, my wife died last year.
  4. by   Whispera
    My son has trouble spending time with his daughter because his ex moved to another state and won't answer his phone's a long story, but he is single and is a father and has no time with his daughter, not by choice.

    I'm sorry for your loss!
  5. by   Ruby Vee
    [font="comic sans ms"]i'm the wife of a single father. his daughter's mother refused to marry him when she found out that she was pregnant. it probably was the best decision on her part, but it's been difficult for my husband. he's tried for 17 years to be a part of his daughter's life, sent child support faithfully every month since several months before her birth, and spent as much time with her as possible considering that her mother moved from the west coast when she discovered her pregnancy to the east coast. dh traveled across the country four times a year to spend a week with his daughter, and paid for her to travel to the west coast to see us in the summer.

    when my step-daughter refused to come see us in the summer because she didn't want to leave her mother and her friends, we moved to the east coast. the longer we've been here, the less we see of her. now we hear from her only when she or her mother want money. her mother makes more money than we do, and her mother's husband, an attorney makes more than the three of us put together. yet the mother keeps making committments for expensive camps, classes, etc. and then sends us a bill for our half. the lastest was the email we got just yesterday. the teenager got her driver's license two weeks ago. her mother sent us a bill for her car insurance (the agreement was that the insurance expense was her mother's) and for a car accident that the child has already had, causins $1200 worth of damage that is not covered by insurance. this is the first we've heard of either the driver's license or the car accident.

    i was so excited about being a step mother, and even more excited about spending time with the child. that hasn't happened, and it hurts. it's worse watching how much this is hurting my husband.