I don't know why I waited sooooooo long to join after reading thousands of posts for years upon years. I am shy in real life, that's funny but I am until I warm up to a group. So from 2003 to 2004 to Oct. 2011 I was just a "Guest." A Thread that I felt was judgmental that nobody else chimed in on finally convinced me to join and add my $0.02. It was about dressing professionally and presenting the best on an interview, or just work in general. I was so struck. It hit soooooo close to home. I had been married between my 1st and 2nd semester of ADN school. I was doing everything possible to earn money, working with my father, a construction worker, and my job, a Student Nurse Assistant. My wife was going to College majoring in Social Work, and she got criticized for wearing Jeans to work. We both grew up Southern U.S. poor, but wanted soooooo much more for our future.
So we bought most of our clothing from a Second hand -or-a Consignment Store at a MS Gulf Coast City. We did our best. They had plenty of male's clothing in my sizes, so I was blessed with Tommy Hilfiger, Ralph Lauren Polo, Nautica, and plenty of Healthcare Scrubs in my color required for work at a local Medical Center(all for pennies on the dollar). My wife, (We tried HARD) but it ended up being Jeans, a few slacks, and some dress shirts. I worked every bit of overtime I could (to charge her two nice business class suits, but she couldn't wear them 2-3 times per week). A clinical instructor from her BSW program pulled her aside to talk to her about her attire (mainly the jeans), and it shattered her self-esteem. We had around $60 to eat on for the week usually during (Our Community College/ADN School) + ($ for 2 people X 1 week), and anything extra (expense) would cripple us. I remember selling the laptop I used the last semester of 2003 (for careplans and Pathopapers during school) to buy my Nursing Pin for graduation.
I felt the OP of that thread needed a reality check and "wake-up" for her "New Grad's First Interview Tips and Advice Thread," and I joined Allnurses.com. Since then I cannot imagine the struggling of Nursing Students trying to make their lives better by entering this great profession to care for people in need, but with current gas prices, grocery prices, rent prices, and utilities; I can only pray they make it- and if they do; That doesn't even guarantee that the "New Grad" can get a job.
So, Hopeless because-one day while my wife was at work; She called home to tell me she had been pulled aside, and told her jeans were "unacceptable" for her practicum (pressed with seem, and in good condition), I cried. I cried and felt like a failure. If I if hadn't married young, I wouldn't be here now (did I do the right thing? (rhetorical.
). My mother was mentally ill with Bi-Polar Disorder, and I couldn't study the ABC's in our home with her varying moods. My wife's situation was the same with multiple family problems to boot (several addicts and alcoholics moved in with her family). So we got married young, to escape our situations (Her growing up in a trailer park to successful college graduate who was self sufficient. Me from a family with Mental Illness, and a father's work injury reseting our social standing)- We gave it our all. We both graduated. We beat poverty.
We had adopted a Boston that we named "Tag" because he had got several price tags stuck to him on an over-night stay upstairs above my parents' general store, and had a fascination with stickers from there out. He was the one thing that stayed positive thoughout every struggle we faced. He was our pet therapist. We both succeeded together, but he was a constant source of humor, relief, and unconditonal love through every trial. So I used him in my "handle," because he proved more loyal than my wife. I don't blame her- as we both agreed very very young what our "marriage" was for. I got where I "planned' to get, I just didn't know the "true cost" of the journey. It sure beats where I started.
And, speaking of "starts," if you remember the harsh responce to that innocent poster's thread on Resume and Interviewing Tips- That's why I acted such an idiot when it was posted. Because it struck so close to home. Because I had learned to get the full reason for the situation, before I judged.
I wouldn't trade my life's lessons for anything- their who I am. I still can't believe I defeated poverty, but I don't deserve the credit- I know my creator does!! I could have been voted "Most likely NOT to succeed,"... but somehow- we made it.
I am grateful. I am Humbled! I am now free!!!!!!!! I have arrived,... I am BostonTerrierLoverRN!!!!