Quote from Tootyx121
Does anyone have tutors help their kids with school work? My son is in Kindergarten and needs help after school doing the little homework assignments and keeping up with what the class is learning. Anything besides reading to him and I go nuts when he does not get it. It makes for a bad scene. He already is low to motivate to work on writing etc in class. If he could have his way all he would do is play (I don't blame him). I don't think I am helping getting uptight when he tries and says can't do his letters.
I am a single mom and think I need someone to help. Would it be crazy to send him to a tutor or a Kumon (early education learning center)? I feel bad not being able to do it myself but I suck at it. I don't want to make him hate school and me because I am pushing him too hard. I feel like I should remove myself until I learn how not to push so hard. I feel guilty as heck not working with him in the meantime.
This little fellow has written homework in kindergarten?
Something's wrong here.
Five year olds are supposed to be able to play well together, sit still long enough to listen to a story and retain enough to answer some simple questions afterward. They are supposed to be able to tie their shoes, toilet themselves (and go all day without an "accident"), stand in line, follow simple directions.
Your little guy is already hard to motivate? That sure says a lot.
Talk with the counselor at the school. Yours may not be the only little fellow with these problems.
Sometimes the problem isn't the kid. A lot of time, the problem is the kid's inability to measure up to an impossible situation.
Five is way too young to be depressed because he's not making the mark in school.
Assume your child is OK, advocate for him with the teacher, the principal, whoever you have to. You will make his life so much better--and he deserves that.
Good luck. (Oh, did I mention anywhere that I am a licensed psychotherapist, with lots of experience with children and adolescents--in and out of institutions, and have taught parenting and violence prevention? Not bragging, just hoping you will take what I say seriously. And don't forget to hug that boy and tell him he's great!)