Intrusive financial questions

  1. I am a private person for most part when it comes to my finances as in the amount I make etc..
    But there are those in my life that feel as if they are entitled to know how much I make.
    I never ask another person how much? they earned it and it's not my business. Being I am an introvert for most part and hate conflict I do not know how to tell them "none of your business" after all they are overly revealing about what they make and border boastfulness which i also do not like. But I never ask so how do I get them to back off without being rude?

    Also Right now I am living on a tight budget as are and it totally exasperates and frustrates me to no end that those who do brag up how much they make actually do not budget as well as I do and want me to help. the helper in me says yes but my mind is saying I thought you made so much money??
    Ok advice on these two issues please lol!
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  2. 9 Comments

  3. by   sharpeimom
    1. More than the 75 an hour I made babysitting as a teenager.

    2. Now why would you need to know THAT?

    3. I'm sorry but I don't feel comfortable discussing those things.
  4. by   GrumpyRN
    Sadly, rates of pay in the NHS are very public. They can be found here;

    Agenda for change - pay rates - NHS Careers

    Nurses start at the bottom of Band 5.

    This does not of course, take into account weekend/nights/public holiday enhancements.
  5. by   peaq
    Quote from sharpeimom
    1. More than the 75 an hour I made babysitting as a teenager.

    2. Now why would you need to know THAT?

    3. I'm sorry but I don't feel comfortable discussing those things.
    maybe these are ideas I should put to use on others...
  6. by   OCNRN63
    ​Why would you ask me a question like that?
  7. by   toomuchbaloney
    Ignore them.
    Make a joke about it, tell them you volunteer; "I could get paid for this???"
    Tell them you are not comfortable answering the question.
    Tell them it is none of their business.
  8. by   peaq
    Quote from toomuchbaloney
    Ignore them.
    Make a joke about it, tell them you volunteer; "I could get paid for this???"
    Tell them you are not comfortable answering the question.
    Tell them it is none of their business.
    Hahahaha! Love the volunteer one that's too funny!
  9. by   imintrouble
    You sound like me. I hate confrontation.
    After a lot of being mad and resentful about being asked that question, I just started saying "I'm not telling you that".
    It's just a simple little sentence that for some reason I feel comfortable saying. That answer extends to any question I don't want to answer.
  10. by   ambrr
    When asked how much you make maybe just smile and say "enough".
  11. by   sharpeimom
    Another one is to answer something like, "I'd.love to talk about that but they said they'd kill me if I talked."

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