unwanted discussions regarding religion

  1. 1 I am interested in how to handle the situation when a supervisor or a co-worker repeatedly brings up the topic of religion. I prefer not to discuss religion at work, but don't know how to let the other person know that I would rather not hear about her church, without hurting her feelings.
  2. Visit  lotlucas profile page

    About lotlucas

    Joined Apr '13; Posts: 2; Likes: 1.

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  3. Visit  NRSKarenRN profile page
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    Moved to our Ethics / Philosophy / Religion section in Breakroom-- uses same login as main site.
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  4. Visit  herring_RN profile page
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    I've been successful nicely doing patient care. If on a break I sometimes listen politely or change the subject.
    If the person is of a faith I know little about i try to learn, but NOT on patient care time.

    If they are clearly trying to convert me I'll tell them I have my own beliefs and consider them private.

    I'm far from expert, but people at work know not to discuss religion or politics or I'm going to go do something or ignore them while documenting.

    Whereas on ALLNURSES CENTRAL ... I'll discuss those topics with others who choose those threads.
    VivaLasViejas and TopazLover like this.
  5. Visit  Saysfaa profile page
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    The same way you would let someone know you aren't interested if it were any other topic - things like looking away and/or very little responsiveness in your eyes, dismissive or withdrawing body language, politely changing the subject, etc.
    weemsp, salvadordolly, herring_RN, and 1 other like this.
  6. Visit  TopazLover profile page
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    A friend of mine has been very successful using "I'm sorry, my mother taught me not to discuss sex, religion or politics at work." It seems to bring home that it is work time and religion is not the only thing off the table. Then walk away, needing to do some "important" task.
    VivaLasViejas, herring_RN, tewdles, and 1 other like this.
  7. Visit  tewdles profile page
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    Yep, just be honest...sorry, nothing personal but I don't discuss religion at work...or similar.
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  8. Visit  BCgradnurse profile page
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    I also say that I do not discuss politics or religion at work. If the discussion continues, I simply excuse myself.
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  9. Visit  StNeotser profile page
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    I have told them I'm an atheist and don't believe in whatever they're trying to peddle. It's absolutely outrageous if you think about it and someone that does this has issues with social boundaries in the workplace. Particularly if it's a supervisor.

    I'm assuming that you live in America and that what I do won't work for you and could set you up for bullying. In that case I would go to what the above posters have suggested.
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  10. Visit  Saysfaa profile page
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    StNeotser, you are assuming they are trying to peddle it. They very well might be; some people do, of course. But they might also be sharing their life. Sort of like my mother-in-law talks about my neices that she babysits, my brother talks about the business he is trying to get going on his own, my sister talks about her school. None of them have much else in their lives right now and they are passionately interested in these topics. So they talk about them, and even the other things they talk about tend to refer to these things.
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  11. Visit  herring_RN profile page
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    Quote from Saysfaa
    StNeotser, you are assuming they are trying to peddle it. They very well might be; some people do, of course. But they might also be sharing their life. Sort of like my mother-in-law talks about my neices that she babysits, my brother talks about the business he is trying to get going on his own, my sister talks about her school. None of them have much else in their lives right now and they are passionately interested in these topics. So they talk about them, and even the other things they talk about tend to refer to these things.
    When socializing with people from work I love hearing about peoples lives.
    I learn to understand my colleagues when the explain their thoughts and beliefs.

    But because of the very few who are trying to convert (or atheists trying to convince there is no God0 i don't discuss religion or politics at work. Even on a break.
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  12. Visit  multi10 profile page
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    Is she talking about her church as her community, or trying to proselytize? Maybe her church is her "family". Just as lots of nurses love to talk about their children and husbands, this nurse may want to talk about her church. It wouldn't bother me if, for example, a nurse in the workplace told me that her church's choir sang "The Messiah" for Easter. It would, however, bother me if a co-worker tried to influence me to believe in her church's teachings. I would draw the line at that and walk away.
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