Props to God, ignore the nurses - page 2
My sister recently went through a horrible systemic group A strep infection and was not expected to live. Very long story short, she defied long-shot odds and today is mostly better, except for tinnitus d/t ABTs and rheumatoid... Read More
- 8Oct 5, '12 by CloudySueI have seen props given several times in obituaries, mostly to nurses in LTC facilities or private duty agencies, where families develop closer relationships with the nurses. Hospital nurses are more like anonymous angels.
- 4Oct 5, '12 by nursel56 GuideThanks for sharing that Cloudy Sue. I was struck by her mentioning it was the sound of the little girl's voices that began to bring her around. Motherhood is very powerful, too. I follow a blog written by a family where the wife and mother survived a pneumococcal sepsis and ended up blind with multiple amputations as a result. She was 7 mo along when she got sick, they delivered the baby who ended up doing fine.
I know in my case when my Dad passed away there was one nurse working in the ER that night who took as much time as I needed to answer all of my questions - I knew how hard they tried and her concern made the grieving process a little less jagged-edged.
- 3Oct 5, '12 by Delicate FlowerI'm so glad your sister is doing so well. Here's what I find odd though: I read the news article and watched the video at the link you provided. Sounds like your sister is pretty much giving the props to prayer as well. As least that's the way the editing makes it sound. I'm just curious: what are her thoughts on this subject?
- 1Oct 5, '12 by CloudySueInteresting question! We have a very religious mother and we both have expressed our contempt secretly to each other in the past. I thought she's more moderate but she knows I'm agnostic so I think she downplays her faith to me. She lives 800 miles away; they moved down to GA from PA about 5 years ago. She's been inundated w well-wishers from everywhere, and since she's deep in the Bible Belt, she gets religious good wishes constantly. I can't help but wonder if that nod to prayer she expressed was just to appease those around her, or she really dove deeper into faith since she moved there. She did look a bit squirmy and glance sideways when she said it, didn't she? ;D Either way, I'm not going to start that conversation w her. She's got enough going on without big sister ragging on her.
The short answer: I dunno.
- 7Oct 5, '12 by Ruby VeeI'm very happy for you and your sister that she's doing well. But I have to agree with the sentiment that the health care team deserves some of the credit for her miracle team. I'm pretty sure that God's contribution was the health care team . . . . but what do I know?
- 5Oct 5, '12 by westieluvMy personal belief is that there is a very powerful God who does use people like nurses and doctors to help to heal people who are ill. Sometimes in a case like your sister's, I will see comments like, "We thank God for Mary's miraculous healing, and also the wonderful and knowledgable doctors and nurses at XYZ hospital that facilitated it," or something along those lines. I think something like that would be completely appropriate, especially in a case like your sister's where she was hospitalized for a long time and had extensive medical intervention. However, unfortunately people often either forget to thank the appropriate parties or avoid doing so for fear of leaving someone out, just as the PP pointed out about the housekeeping staff. Then there's dietary, RT, PT, etc., etc., etc., so maybe that had something to do with it. It may also be pertinent to note that your sister lives in a generally religious part of the country where a lot of people do believe in God and giving Him the glory, etc., so maybe that plays into it too.
I used to work hospice. I was an after hours on-call nurse, so I didn't really develop a personal relationship with the patients and their families, but I saw many instances where one of our case manager RNs, who had spent literally hours with a patient and their family and built quite a relationship with them, was not mentioned at all in the obituary when the patient died, which I felt would have been a nice thing to do. There's no figuring people, so I guess we just do our jobs for the satisfaction of knowing that we made a difference, even if the people that we helped forget to acknowledge it in the end.
So glad to see this inspirational story about your sister! I hope she is doing great and continues to enjoy good health in the future!Last edit by westieluv on Oct 5, '12