Are you happy being single? - page 6
by Poi Dog, ADN, RN | 8,222 Views | 64 Comments
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- 1Nov 25, '11 by Black JadePoi, I understand what you are saying. The older that I get, the higher the expectations. Maybe that is why I don't even bother. If it happens, it happens. The one thing that I have trouble understanding is that I see butt ugly women dating good looking men. How do they do that? Maybe I should just not wear make up, not use deodorant and stop shaving my legs and armpits once and for all. Maybe that way I will be able to attract at least a fly.
- 3Nov 25, '11 by joanna73 GuideQuote from Poi DogTry 5 years. I enjoy being alone. I'm also not willing to compromise my values. I broke up with my BF two weeks after nursing school started. I didn't want any distractions and he was getting annoying.I do miss being in a relationship but not enough that I am actively looking. If it happens, it happens.
I have been single for 6 months...a record for me
My RN is more important than some fleeting relationship. I'm getting too old to have a baby....so I have mixed feelings about that. Kids at 40 don't do it for me. I'll have to be content with my friends and my travels. Maybe by the time I'm 80, the right guy will show up.
- 3Nov 25, '11 by Poi DogMy coworkers give me grief about being single. My hits too-close-to-home reply is: "Yeah but at least I am happy. All you ever do is whine and talk bad about your husband/boyfriend. Guess who has the better deal?"
That usually shuts em up.
*can you tell I am not interested in winning a popularity contest?*Last edit by Poi Dog on Nov 25, '11
- 1Nov 26, '11 by Black JadeHow do you answer when you are introduced to people and they ask you about your marital status? It happened to me when my supervisors and I had a luncheon with one of the companies we deal with. Everybody was going around the table introducing themselves and they were talking about family. I got up to go to the restroom hoping that by the time I came back, they changed topics. Nope. They were still on the same topic. For some reason, I feel ashamed to say that I'm single and feel the need to explain why. I guess, because I don't want them to feel sorry for me.
When one of my co-workers who wanted to set me up with one of her male friends, asked me if I wanted kids; I cringed. At my age, I honestly do not know if I will be able to have a child or even deal with one. The idea of moving in or living together also doesn't appeal to me. I don't know if that makes me selfish. I would love to meet somebody, but at the same time I love my independence and my freedom.
Before, when Holidays were approaching I would be stressed out about planning not to be alone especially New Years' Eve. Also, Holidays are tough when you are invited to get-togethers and all you see around you are couples. This year, instead of moping around because I don't have a date, I decided to stay home, watch movies and just relax. I learned to embraced my singlehood. It's not because there is something wrong with me, but because it's not my time yet to meet the right person.
- 4Nov 28, '11 by WillowNMeI'm 24, and not going to lie, I haven't been in any sort of relationship for the past couple of years. I worked full time while going to nursing school full time. I graduated this past spring, found a really great job that I love... most of my friends would say I pretty much have my poop together. With all of this "extra time" all of a sudden (AKA: only working a 3-4 days a week with a one day recovery), I did try to the online dating thing. That was a no go, ended my subscription and won't be renewing it.
Part of the issue is I don't hang out with people my own age, nor do I really live the life of a normal 24 year old. Sometimes it makes me sad - I never lived on campus, never studied abroad, wasn't really invited when classmates went out... but the other part of me loves it - I have a kick butt house out in the country, I get to spend time with my family, friends and horse, I have a great job that I love that pays well, I do travel... I guess I sort of feel like the last thing left is finding someone to share life with, you know? Sounds cheesy when I say it, but...
- 1Mar 18, '12 by orangepinkYes. On some days or nights, it can get lonely but overall, I'm happy to be single. I've heard enough horror stories about failed relationships and/or marriages that I'm more cautious with who I end up with. I'd rather be single than be in a relationship or marriage full of drama.
- 1Mar 20, '12 by Poi DogQuote from orangepinkYes, to the bolded. I have become super picky about who I spend time with too!Yes. On some days or nights, it can get lonely but overall, I'm happy to be single. I've heard enough horror stories about failed relationships and/or marriages that I'm more cautious with who I end up with. I'd rather be single than be in a relationship or marriage full of drama.
Still single here and so not looking. Can flirt with anyone I want to and not feel as though I have sinned
One of my coworkers is always fighting with her bf and I am just like, who needs that ish? lol
- 2Mar 24, '12 by FranEMTnursePoi, I refused to allow others to pressure me into getting married or to allow others to hook me up with eligible people who other people thought I should get romantically involved with. I got married when I was 24 to a person I chose as my partner. We had 2 children.
Today, I am a very happy widow who loves being single, and don't have time to get lonely. My children, grandchildren, and friends fill my life.
- 1Apr 14, '12 by vegas2009A work friend of mine who I sometimes hang out with on breaks, told me about her bf for over 2 years now. Anyway, I tried to listen to every detail she told me about the dude. We talked after work at the break room (a few weeks ago) and all I can honestly think about was eating my KFC chicken at home. Also, flossing and taking a shower and eventually going to bed! That's how much I was sooo tired from work that day! Anyway, let's call her "L". Her story is, her bf wanted her to agree on marrying him and eventually get married in six months. She said, they're both stubborn, she's not ready and she wants her freedom, blah, blah, blah. . . my eyes are about to fall out of my face for sitting there, because I really wanted to just get home! lol.
Then, she told me that she just wanted about 2 to 3 years (for him to wait for her), then she can finally commit to marrying him. She plans to go to nursing school in Cali. for Spring 2013, if she gets accepted. Hello, lottery system?? Also, she plans to go to Japan this year and meet up with her friend there.
I don't really ask her personal questions and stuff, when we talk at work. We just talk about day to day stuff, laugh, etc. But, when she first told me about her friend in Japan -- I thought she was a dude (with the way she was talking about her). Until "L" told me it was a woman.
Hmmm... so I thought, maybe she's a little gay? OR NOT, since she plans to marry her "bf" in 2 to 3 years? I dunno.
Haha. I just told her she has drama (just like everyone else). But, honestly, I think she is definitely NOT in love with her "bf" and probably questioning her sexuality ---> No, I didn't tell her this --- Since, this is something she needs to figure out herself. And oh, she's Jehovah's witness, so --- how can she be gay? She quite possibly has comittment issues too. All I can is, I wish I was still 25 and I wouldn't mind having problems like her. LOL. "If I could just turn back time" (Cher).