Uh oh...causing drama (not on purpose)

  1. Soo...

    I'm getting married in September. Been with future hubster for three & a half years. He's the best! He really is the one for me.

    Now...

    I started a new job in October. One of my coworkers is really cute. Very much not my type, but he def caught my eye. He's a good bit younger than I am, also engaged, has kids. Nice guy, funny. Kinda looks like a combo of future hubster and best guy friend.

    Recently he started hanging out in my office all of the time, especially when my officemate isn't there. He thought of a nickname for me. We absolutely flirt, and both have fun with it.

    Now, future hubster knows all about this. Everything. My officemate knows, too and says I should stop telling future hubster about it. Honestly he doesn't care and is glad I'm honest so I keep telling him about it. He says he thinks my coworker is trying to get into my pants but he trusts me. I tell him I seriously doubt that he's trying to get with me, he's just a flirty guy.

    So whatever, it's really not been an issue, it's harmless and isn't causing any impure thoughts or problems with my man. Or problems with his woman. Or so I thought..

    Until today - I found out that his fiancee got on his Facebook and unfriended me. She's apparently a very jealous person.

    Whoops. I'm not looking to cause trouble. I haven't done anything wrong, and neither has he. I know what it's like to be the jealous partner, too. That was me in the past. So I just feel bad.

    Not looking for advice, just wanted to share...
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  2. 16 Comments

  3. by   Farawyn
    I flirt. I mean, duh.
    It is fun, and it is a boost. I'm in a different situation than you, with a kind of not on point marriage, 'nuff said. But I still don't flirt for real.

    When you mean nothing by it, it sucks when other people read more in to it. I had a really good online friend that I referred to as a brother. I called him bro, we played a lot, didn't flirt really at all, but just spent time being wise asses to each other. Apparently he felt different and less than "brotherly" towards me, and so did his wife, and he completely cut me off "for the sake of his marriage".
    It was kind of a shock, and it still hurts to this day. That's 1 recent example.
    So, even if it's completely innocent, you never know when people are going to be hurt.
    That being said, I would back off of cute flirty guy at work a bit. I know it's his fiancée's problem, but still.

    I know you didn't ask for advice. Just wanted you to know I've been there.
    Last edit by Farawyn on Feb 11, '16
  4. by   DeLanaHarvickWannabe
    Thanks for the input. Sorry your marriage is "kind of not on point." I was engaged before, and that entire relationship was not even close to being on point.

    As for work cutie, he irritated me today.

    Plus I misplaced my office keys...again...
  5. by   DeLanaHarvickWannabe
    Oh and future hubster is irritating the crap out of me right now so maybe it's just me today.
  6. by   Farawyn
    You know those t shirt guns at sports functions? Sometimes I want to stick men into those and catapult them into space!
  7. by   DeLanaHarvickWannabe
    Seriously. Men. Seriously.
  8. by   Farawyn
    You know what is the worst? ManBoys.
  9. by   DeLanaHarvickWannabe
    Men...can't llive with 'em...can't shoot 'em.

    I seriously have been boy-crazy since day 1. Ask my mom. It's partially being a Leo.
  10. by   amoLucia
    Quote from DeLanaHarvickWannabe
    Men...can't llive with 'em...can't shoot 'em.
    "You just mop around them" !!!

    Quoted from one of my elderly LOL's at a past job.

    One of the best lines I ever heard!
    Last edit by amoLucia on Feb 14, '16
  11. by   Farawyn
    Quote from DeLanaHarvickWannabe
    Men...can't llive with 'em...can't shoot 'em.

    I seriously have been boy-crazy since day 1. Ask my mom. It's partially being a Leo.

    I'm boy crazy as well. Gemini. I'm a bit fickle.

    My hubs was my best friend for years before we dated. He is 6'7". I used to seethe if he hugged someone else, so I had to snag him.

    But yea, I like men. Bless Their Hearts.
  12. by   BCgradnurse
    As I always say....just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't read the menu.... However, if someone has already ordered that dessert, you cannot go over to their table and ask for just a spoonful...

    Flirting is fun...I'll be doing it til I'm old and they're just rolling their eyes at me...oh wait...they already are....
  13. by   Farawyn
    Quote from BCgradnurse
    As I always say....just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't read the menu.... However, if someone has already ordered that dessert, you cannot go over to their table and ask for just a spoonful...

    Flirting is fun...I'll be doing it til I'm old and they're just rolling their eyes at me...oh wait...they already are....
    I'm a diabetic. No dessert for me.
  14. by   BCgradnurse
    Quote from Farawyn
    I'm a diabetic. No dessert for me.
    Then read that menu, girl.......

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