So my ex fiance is now dating my ex best friend.

  1. Found out today. Way to twist the knife. I cannot believe how they could possibly do this to me. I me what a prick. What a bunch of pricks people I though were my friends. I just can't believe it.

    The best thing that ever happened to me was breaking it off with that see you next Tuesday. What a bunch of selfish jerks. The worst part about this whole thing is we all have the same friends. So now I am virtually friendless, and all my friends knew and hid it from me.

    Its just one gut check after another, it never stops. I mean how low can you go. I guess I go on with my life, not let it get to me, and find some new friends. Because clearly these people where never my friends.

    Those two pricks deserve each other.
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  3. by   Farawyn
    I am liking this to acknowledge you.
    I'm sorry. I am SO sorry.
    Were you still in contact with your ex fiancée when this happened?
  4. by   Farawyn
    Gavin, can you salvage anyone out of your group that you can talk to in person?
  5. by   honeyforasalteyfish
    Maybe one, not sure I want to. What I would like to do is cut all of them out of my life. I asked this man to be the best man at my wedding. Oh well she will cut and run at the first sign of trouble its what she is good at.
  6. by   Farawyn
    Quote from Gavin513
    Maybe one, not sure I want to. What I would like to do is cut all of them out of my life. I asked this man to be the best man at my wedding. Oh well she will cut and run at the first sign of trouble its what she is good at.
    ((((((((Gavin)))))))))
    What can I do to help you?
  7. by   honeyforasalteyfish
    Quote from Farawyn
    ((((((((Gavin)))))))))
    What can I do to help you?
    Nothing you haven't done already far. I will make new friends. I never though I would be mass cutting people out of my life, but it appears I have no choice. Oh well. Actually I am quite good I saw it coming. Now I know why people have been avoiding me.

    Its good to get it out in the open. Its releasing actually. Now I don't have to give a damn about a one of them.
  8. by   Farawyn
    Quote from Gavin513
    Nothing you haven't done already far. I will make new friends. I never though I would be mass cutting people out of my life, but it appears I have no choice. Oh well. Actually I am quite good I saw it coming. Now I know why people have been avoiding me.

    Its good to get it out in the open. Its releasing actually. Now I don't have to give a damn about a one of them.
    **** them!

    I want to punch them.

    I'm not tough.
  9. by   honeyforasalteyfish
    Ahh its all good. He had the nerve to hope we could all be friends someday. After he conspires to ostrasize me from all the people I have considered friends.
  10. by   Farawyn
    Quote from Gavin513
    Ahh its all good. He had the nerve to hope we could all be friends someday. After he conspires to ostrasize me from all the people I have considered friends.
    Jerk.
  11. by   RNinIN
    Gavin, from reading this and some of your other posts, I'm begging you to find a professional unbiased party to talk to. I know you say you've tried, but keep trying to find someone who clicks with you. You have so much anger and unresolved rage in some of your writings, which I can totally understand, but they're things you've got to get rid of, or it will hold you back. As someone who has had a multitude of issues, I know how releasing it can be to find an unbiased party to unload on. In my case, hard to find someone. I've been in the healthcare business 20+ years, small geographic area, everyone knows everyone. I had to go miles out of my way to do it. But worth it. FWIW, I will send some positive thoughts your way...
  12. by   Farawyn
    I agree 100%.
    In talking with Gavin, I know he feels kind of safe here with us over on Blue, and we will continue to be here for you.

    I hope you are also getting "real" support in your life, kiddo.
    We don't want you to leave, we just want the best for you.
  13. by   honeyforasalteyfish
    Quote from RNinIN
    Gavin, from reading this and some of your other posts, I'm begging you to find a professional unbiased party to talk to. I know you say you've tried, but keep trying to find someone who clicks with you. You have so much anger and unresolved rage in some of your writings, which I can totally understand, but they're things you've got to get rid of, or it will hold you back. As someone who has had a multitude of issues, I know how releasing it can be to find an unbiased party to unload on. In my case, hard to find someone. I've been in the healthcare business 20+ years, small geographic area, everyone knows everyone. I had to go miles out of my way to do it. But worth it. FWIW, I will send some positive thoughts your way...
    I personally think I am much better in a matter of days. Where I am now compared to where I was is remarkable improvement. As it I see a psychiTrist, and he thinks I have made remarkable improvement.

    Perhaps I will take the time to consider therapy again this weekend.

    Realistically it's not as bad as my posts make it sound sometimes I use my posts to vent my frustrations


    mostly though I don't want to bottle up my emotions so perhaps therapysy be helpful. I will consider it this weekend after the completion of my exams.
  14. by   SnowShoeRN
    Gavin, for what it's worth I had a very similar thing happen to me about 10 years ago. It took a solid 2 years for me to accept it and while I no longer hold anger toward them, I have no wish to be friends with either of them. I absolutely advocate finding a paid professional. Hang in there.

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