Rooster in the hen house

  1. 0 Hello- i am a married male nurse and several times in my career have been tempted to stray off the path. Hopefully one has a solid secure marriage because if you don't and I am afraid i fall into that category , temptation abounds. I have learned to deal with it though and am walkin the straight and narrow. I actually am pretty good friends with some of my female coworkers but i must remember not to cross the line into anything physical.I'll just keep telling myself that.
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  3. Visit  rick.s.lpn profile page

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    55 Years Old; Joined Aug '09; Posts: 16; Likes: 10.


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  4. Visit  MN-Nurse profile page
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    Quote from rick.s.lpn
    Hello- i am a married male nurse and several times in my career have been tempted to stray off the path. Hopefully one has a solid secure marriage because if you don't and I am afraid i fall into that category , temptation abounds. I have learned to deal with it though and am walkin the straight and narrow. I actually am pretty good friends with some of my female coworkers but i must remember not to cross the line into anything physical.I'll just keep telling myself that.
    You are kinda creepin' me out.
    Vishwamitr, IndiCRNA, imintrouble, and 3 others like this.
  5. Visit  Paige-RN profile page
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    Hahahaha to that last post!! Too funny. This isn't a nursing issue. This is a personal problem you have. It has nothing to do with you being a nurse.
    aTOMicTom, weemsp, Vishwamitr, and 2 others like this.
  6. Visit  JustBeachyNurse profile page
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    Thread moved to allnurses breakroom dating/relationships forum as no direct correlation to the practice of nursing.

    Please note that you can post in the "blue banner" breakroom side by signing in using the same username & password as for the "yellow banner" allnurses side.
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  7. Visit  kalevra profile page
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    There are more unhappily married people in my class than happily married people. I talked to a few of the unhappily married ones and a lot of their stories all sound the same. Their plan is to finish the RN program, get a job and become self sufficient. Afterwards they plan on leaving their spouse and take the kids. Seems like the only reason why they are sticking around now is that they can't make it on their own financially.


    Hey if you got feelings for some of them you should figure out why? Is it because your unhappy, lust, or opportunity? Telling yourself NO all the time is eventually gonna fail. You need to figure out why.
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  8. Visit  CrufflerJJ profile page
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    Two simple words....Lorena Bobbitt.
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  9. Visit  BostonTerrierLoverRN profile page
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    Chilling...
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  10. Visit  Davey Do profile page
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    Quote from BostonTerrierLoverRN
    Chilling...
    Yet, in an Odd Way, Thrilling...
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  11. Visit  caroladybelle profile page
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    The title is rather poorly chosen.

    I doubt if the hens are aware that you consider yourself their rooster. The attitude is more likely "fox in the henhouse" rather than "rooster".

    You might also consider that many of the "hens" that tempt you, probably find you not tempting whatsoever,
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  12. Visit  BostonTerrierLoverRN profile page
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    Okay, I have to at this time add my "Chicken joke."

    ...As this elderly couple walked through a Chicken House watching the Rooster go from hen to hen, she depressingly said, "I sure wish you had his stamina!"

    He replied, "Well, If I had a "new" hen each time..."

    Yes, he probably slept on the couch that night
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  13. Visit  somenurse profile page
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    <---i think i work with the OP, HA HA...i do know this guy i think, a few times over. It does show, that he sees himself as very highly sought after or wished for, we can detect that he sees himself that way.



    just kidding. teasing aside though,
    to the OP,
    you mention your marriage is not great,
    this is something you might want to focus on. Who knows, she might be eying some other rooster, and thinking, "Wow, i feel so so happy when i am with So&so, HE really makes me feel like i matter!"
    or "wow, it's way more fun flirting with Otherdude, than it is doing laundry and balancing the checkbook with hubby..this must mean i should be with Otherdude.."
    or whatever.
    there is more than one rooster out there,
    and sometimes, you don't know what you have
    til you lose it.
    No one is perfect, no relationship is perfect 24/7, either. Cutie-coworker who giggles at all your jokes and makes you feel all manned up,
    might be a real nightmare to live with.

    If this is a commitment you take seriously, no time like now to get help, put your energy into fixing it. Maybe some of the charm or energy you put into your female coworkers, might be much appreciated and very effective if you try those efforts at home.
    YOu could consider couple therapy, or sit the two of you down, repeatedly,
    and map out your own plans together to heal the relationship,
    set up weekly date night,
    take some trips together, just you two,
    have discussions to discover what it is the other person needs, read books on relationships together, (get 2 copies) discussing it together as you go along, whether you both laff about it, or consider or try the ideas in the books,
    whatever,
    keep trying stuff,
    might take several tries to get going in better direction.
    Do new and different kinda thrilling things together, try new stuff out together.
    Prioritize each other for now, make pleasing each other goal #1 each day, to get back where you used to be.
    Do what you can to jump start your own sex life at home. The biggest sex organ you have is between your ears. Put it to work.

    even if your efforts fail,
    even if your marriage does disintegrate, at least, you can know you tried CPR on it. An honorable person won't lie. If you do find yourself deciding to go for sex with someone else,
    be a man,
    be honest,
    break off with your wife first,
    get your own place,
    or discuss with her that you two are now BOTH in open relationship. Cheating is just so sleazy, if it's not a mutually agreed upon deal. You might end up paying a price for that thrill of forbidden sex, in reducing your ability to see your own self as good and honorable person.<---this might be more important than you might think, imo.


    and dawg help the hen that ever does take you on,
    in some point in the future, she can have her very own cheating man at home...

    oh, and remember, about one out of every 3 or 4 hens nowadays has an STD of one kind or another, AND you are probably way too old to be explaining whoopsie pregnancies to care for and pay for, for next coupla decades, too, so be sensible. Also, this can backfire professionally,
    you might be surprised, if this affair does happen,
    and then ends sourly,
    how much that might mess things up
    at
    your
    job.

    GOOD LUCK in your decisions.
    Last edit by somenurse on Jan 3, '13
  14. Visit  BostonTerrierLoverRN profile page
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    Then,...When all the chickens (hens) are gone after the above well presented scenario, it will just be you left, to compromise the airway of your own chicken!!! Thank about this dude, thats why they're called "home wreckers" (for a reason)
    Camperhead, IndiCRNA, and somenurse like this.
  15. Visit  netglow profile page
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    OMG this thread is an award winner!!!!

    Can we have a place for award winning threads, special recognition to The Do, named Davey and BostonTerrierLoverRN!

    How cruel! to compromise the airway of your own chicken, OP. But, that's the road your "going down"


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