Relationships and nursing school

  1. I'm a junior year nursing student and here's my secret: I've never been in a relationship. I've never been in love, never been kissed. I'm 20 years old. I feel embarrassed about it but I've just never met anyone I would want to be in a relationship with. I've been asked out once, but I turned him down for personal reasons.

    As we all know, nursing is a female dominated field. In addition, I spend so much of my time studying and around other nursing students, that I don't really have any opportunities to meet someone.

    I just feel so behind in this huge part of life. All my friends are either in relationships or have past boyfriends and I'm over here who doesn't know what dating is even like.
    Last edit by Joe V on Jan 19, '16
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  2. 9 Comments

  3. by   JustBeachyNurse
    So do something about it. Make the time. Join a dating service. Join a club.
  4. by   cracklingkraken
    Eh, relationships come and go. You're still young.

    There's no need to compare yourself to others. Everyone walks their own paths.
  5. by   Farawyn
    Quote from stacylethani
    I'm a junior year nursing student and here's my secret: I've never been in a relationship. I've never been in love, never been kissed. I'm 20 years old. I feel embarrassed about it but I've just never met anyone I would want to be in a relationship with. I've been asked out once, but I turned him down for personal reasons.

    As we all know, nursing is a female dominated field. In addition, I spend so much of my time studying and around other nursing students, that I don't really have any opportunities to meet someone.

    I just feel so behind in this huge part of life. All my friends are either in relationships or have past boyfriends and I'm over here who doesn't know what dating is even like.
    Awww.

    Are you shy?
    What about guy friends?

    You don't have to be in a relationship to kiss someone. Just sayin'.
  6. by   Rose_Queen
    I didn't start my first relationship until my 2nd senior year of college. Once it ended, I didn't get involved in another for several years. In fact, I have a tendency to go years between relationships. I don't take relationships lightly- if it's not someone I mesh with, I don't try to force it.

    Nothing wrong with being single and enjoying it. I've learned so much about who I am and what I can do on my own- travel the world solo, resilience, creativity, so on and so forth.
  7. by   Penelope_Pitstop
    I met my fiance on Match.com! It was my therapist's suggestion. She thought I needed to stay away from the docs, haha.

    But...I kind of wish I had been single when I was your age. I was in a relationship from 17-21 and didn't have any FUN with my friends or anything.
  8. by   CamillusRN
    Hey, I feel ya. 27 and still looking for someone to invest my first kiss on. Plenty of friends (guys and gals), just no interest in any of 'em. However, I'm starting to pass the "meh" stage and entering the "holy crap I'm old(ish) and still single!" stage. I wanted to wait until I was done with school so I could be less busy and start looking into building a relationship then, but things just got even busier when I landed a job the day after graduation and then went back to school the next month.

    So if you feel behind in the relationship sector, find comfort knowing that there's someone even behind-er. All in good time.
  9. by   Farawyn
    Quote from CamillusRN
    Hey, I feel ya. 27 and still looking for someone to invest my first kiss on. Plenty of friends (guys and gals), just no interest in any of 'em. However, I'm starting to pass the "meh" stage and entering the "holy crap I'm old(ish) and still single!" stage. I wanted to wait until I was done with school so I could be less busy and start looking into building a relationship then, but things just got even busier when I landed a job the day after graduation and then went back to school the next month.

    So if you feel behind in the relationship sector, find comfort knowing that there's someone even behind-er. All in good time.
    You and OP should meet. Just sayin'.
  10. by   honeyforasalteyfish
    I didn't get into my first serious relationship until I was your age. In hindsight I wish it had never happened.

    Dont worry about it your studies come first, anyone who can't understand that isn't worth your time. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you.

    All that said it never hurts if you manage to find the right person, but you won't be able to tell that sort of thing for awhile in a relationship.

    My best advice don't rush things, because you are eager to be in a relationship take things slow at first. Becoming attached to a person early in a relationship can create a false image of who the person really is, and can lead to bigger disappointment.
  11. by   Ted
    Oh. . . Nursing School does have a way in keeping someone very, very busy! LOL! WHENEVER you are ready to be in a relationship (and, as others suggested, there is no right or wrong time in one's life for a "romantic-type" relationship), just simply be aware of all of your wants, needs, desires, interests, "attractions", etc. Of course, I must add that there is no "Mr. or Ms. Perfect". LOL! I am 30+ years away from "The Dating World", so I am no use in suggesting anything with regards to actually SEEKING a mate. Apparently, many single individuals are using on-line dating sites. But being aware of one's own self, and all that is involved with such an awareness, is really important. I wish you well.

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