Sometimes doctor-patient relationships get a little muddled because of the personalities and life circumstances involved.
I have this wonderful psychiatrist who's about a decade younger than I, and perhaps one of the most awesome human beings on the planet. Our relationship has never crossed professional boundaries and never will, but we're probably as close to being friends as a doctor and patient can (or should) ever be. We like each other tremendously, and our personalities mesh perfectly---we laugh at the same things, worry about the same things, enjoy the same things. I know about his recent colonoscopy results and his wife's mission trip to El Salvador, and he wants to know how things are going here at Allnurses and on my blog. We even consult with one another on clinical situations we're dealing with, never using names of course, and generally treat each other as colleagues more than anything else.
when it comes down to where to draw the line, it's right here: I already HAVE friends. What I need him
to be is a port in the storm that is my life with a serious mental illness. We tease each other, tell funny stories, and "talk shop" during sessions, but in the end he is my doctor
, not my pal.
The 'friendship' described in the OP doesn't pass the smell test IMHO. It sounds like a boundary violation to me, especially since the doctor is in his 50s and the patient is in her 20s. This could be viewed as potentially exploitive, given the differences in both age and balance of power, and isn't fair to either party.
Orlette, you would be well-advised to find a new doctor and/or form friendships with people closer to your age group. You don't want to jeopardize his license, and you definitely don't want a reputation that might make it harder to get a job after you graduate from nursing school
. Please consider what has been said here, and then do the right thing and leave him alone.