Ok I am a nursing student, but in this situation I am a patient.
I asked my doctor to become friends with me, after the initial appointments were over (he still continues to be my doctor too
, we'll have follow-up appointments).
He's also older, he's in his early 50-s I'm in my early 20-s
When I asked him if he wants to be friends with me, he asked what is friend to me, and I said to me it's hanging out, talking, going somewhere together etc.. And then he agreed to be friends! BUT! we only exchange messages on his work email!!
(though messages are informal).
When I mentioned cell numbers he said "his professional cell died and he dopesn't have a personal cell just a pager for on-calls" - Is that possible?? Really? What do you think?
When I asked about hanging out he said he's only free after his vacation so that means in more than 2 weeks! And he has one weekend right before vacation but he says he'll work Friday till 6:30 and Sat and Sund he has to get ready! Really? Two full days to get ready for vacation?
And a couple more things like that. Ok it's only been 2 weeks or less since I offered to be friends and he accepted, but still, so many excuses already!!
Why then is he avoiding it when I actually ask him to hang out?
Or do you think all he said could actually be true (all of it together)??
And in case he's avoiding me, why did he agree to be friends and still talks to me over work email then?
What's going on with this guy??
What do you think?
flame me if you want.........I think you are playing with fire. You need to be with someone your age, not old enough to be your father. I would be leery of a man old enough to be my father wanting to be "friends". Sounds inappropriate at best.
If you are going into nursing to find a "friend" thats a dr......I would re-think this...
also if you expect to have this relationship with all dr's, you are sadly mistaken.
I think you need to re-think your position and "unfriend" this guy and be an adult.
Keep professional relationships, professional........
This is my opinion, of course.....
Last edit by silverbat on Jun 27, '13
: Reason: spelling
I am curious about him for some reason, so I guess there is some kind of interest.
Orlette are you infatuated with yourdoctor?
But to be completely honest at the back of my mind I also think it's cool that the doctor deviated a bit from his professional guidelines for me and we are now just talking about random stuff over his work email, including my photos. Makes me feel special--> I know it's not "nice" to think that,but I am at least aware that this too plays a part..
He said yesterday that I have nice photos on the internet (I did modeling as part-time job). So that means he googled my name, so even if I am "interested", then he is too..
But in this context I am only a patient. If I was a nurse and worked where he worked and then became his patient then maybe it would bedifferent (though technically I'd still be a patient to him no matter what) but in this case I am just a patient who just happened to be a nursing student.
If you were simply a patient infatuated with your MD and unable to seethat it would be wrong for the MD to encourage such behavior
Also, since, as I said, he told me he googled me and looked at my photos and liked them(and there were some photos in bikini and stuff), he doesn't see anything wrong with it .. so since even he, being in a professional position in this case doesn't see anything wrong with telling me he liked the photos of me he found on the internet, then at least on my part definitely I didn't do anything wrong..
Last edit by Orlette on Jun 29, '13
: Reason: spelling