Making time to date in nursing school ?!

  1. I've become a no nonsense type of gal when it comes to dating. lol. I am currently in a accelerated program and SOMEHOW a man has managed to shimmy his way into my life. I really like him. He is super sweet. However, with my school schedule I am often under fire from friends that I don't spend a lot of time with them and they get upset because I am always busy. I don't want him to end up feeling the same later. This guy understands a little more because he has been through it all and is at this point finishing up his medical training. But I don't want things to get to a point where I like him too much and I am in too deep and then my schedule becomes an issue. Do you guys just not date or give people a chance while in very challenging programs or entertain people to see if it works out? I've dated a-lot of D-bags in the past who were the total opposite of my current "bae" so I might be jaded. Any advice is greatly accepted. I guess what I am thinking is I don't want to waste our time if things are not going to work out in the end but I know my schedule woes are only temporary and I can't predict the future !

    Give dating a try or Consciously Avoid it !?


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  2. Poll: Give dating while in nursing school a try?

    • Yes! Give it a try ! <3

      91.67% 11
    • No! Consciously avoid at all costs ! >:0 </3

      8.33% 1
    12 Votes
  3. 22 Comments

  4. by   Sour Lemon
    Quote from futureprovider
    ...I can't predict the future !
    What a coincidence. Neither can I. But if you have time to write "Dear Diary" posts on the internet asking strangers for dating advice, then you probably have time to date.
  5. by   Davey Do
    Quote from futureprovider
    ...I can't predict the future !
    Nor can I. But I see this thread ending up here:
    Dating / Relationships | allnurses

    I dated while I was in Nursing School, both LPN and RN. I ended up marrying, and divorcing, both of them.

    I should have heeded the Warning: Dating can lead to marriage.
  6. by   NightNerd
    No one can predict that. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. A solid relationship will withstand challenges of all kinds, including nursing school.

    If you have a great feeling about this guy, you may very well regret not giving it a shot. But, know your priorities and what you are/aren't willing to do to keep him. Figure out a game plan together, try it, and see what happens!
  7. by   futureprovider
    Quote from Sour Lemon
    What a coincidence. Neither can I. But if you have time to write "Dear Diary" posts on the internet asking strangers for dating advice, then you probably have time to date.
    Lol. Wow your dates end fairly quick ! People usually want to spend more time with me on a date than it takes me to write a "dear diary post"
  8. by   futureprovider
    Quote from NightNerd
    No one can predict that. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. A solid relationship will withstand challenges of all kinds, including nursing school.

    If you have a great feeling about this guy, you may very well regret not giving it a shot. But, know your priorities and what you are/aren't willing to do to keep him. Figure out a game plan together, try it, and see what happens!
    Aww you're right ! Thanks for your advice!
  9. by   futureprovider
    Quote from Davey Do
    Nor can I. But I see this thread ending up here:
    Dating / Relationships | allnurses

    I dated while I was in Nursing School, both LPN and RN. I ended up marrying, and divorcing, both of them.

    I should have heeded the Warning: Dating can lead to marriage.

    Wow! Thanks for sharing your experience.
  10. by   Here.I.Stand
    I didn't date............... because I was married and had a baby during my program.
  11. by   Purple_roses
    I had time to date--no problem. I dated (and still am dating) someone who was just as busy as I am. Nursing school is busy, but other people can easily be just as busy.

    Just remember: school comes first. School is a time to be selfish because it's shaping your future. I told my guy that school comes first, no matter what. And he never pressured me to go out on study nights or to stay up late on school nights.
  12. by   blondy2061h
    Nursing school just really isn't as all consuming as so many make it out to be. You should have time to date.
  13. by   RSP.SN
    Quote from futureprovider
    ...Give dating a try or Consciously Avoid it !?


    I meeeean... it really all depends on the person and situation, honestly. In my case, my boyfriend is studying for his BSE (Bachelor's of Science in Engineering) while I'm BSN, so we are both understanding and respectful in regards to our workload since we're both in science. Dating is most definitely possible, it's all about being with the right person. ❤️
    Last edit by RSP.SN on Jul 3
  14. by   Xlorgguss
    I had three relationships while I was in nursing school. The primary one was already well established (years) and ended as I was going into my last semester of school. There was issues aside from time, but they felt lonely while I was at work full-time and then doing school, and that most of my home time was spent doing school. Do you work in addition to school? How far through your program are you? Being in an accelerated program the end should be in sight relatively. If he likes you as much as you think he does then I'm sure he understands. From personal experience I had a relationship fail (with a current RN) because they wouldn't make time for me on either of my two days off. They would consistently choose to take overtime, go the gym (lol) or spend time with family over making time for me. The other relationship was almost completely the opposite. I made my two days off for the most part a priority for them. Often I would work on assignments at their house because I had to get it done, but it was nice that I tried to at least physically be there. Ultimately they thought seeing me once or twice a week wasn't a enough and I could tell they were getting frustrated so I ended it. Its tough to find balance. But if the guy is worth it and you both make each other a priority (with school coming first) then you should be able to make it work. Good luck!
  15. by   Beldar_the_Cenobite
    Lmao I should just say that I've always been told to resent dating while in nursing school. I'm not there in nursing school yet so I guess when I get there I'll see why they said that, but I've tried to approach girls who were in and I didn't think it was that bad to date them and you know be serious about them and not play games with them but I guess what I want is what some would call "knowing them for years to get to that level and not just up front"...

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