So, I have an older brother that I love dearly. I don't want to see him get hurt and I want to see him happy. He's good with his career and now, he wants to find a girl to settle down with. I understand that. But, he's a tad on the desperate side. He tends to meet girls online (as opposed to meeting them at an actual place first), he buys them very expensive gifts right off, talks to them constantly, and then, thinks it's love after a month. The girl he is with now...I don't know her, I have seen her on video messaging, but he has only known her a month. They're talking marriage. He is willing to change his plans that he talked about for a while, to stay where he lives.
Like I said, I want him to be happy. I want him to find a girl that genuinely loves him for him, not money. But, I think he is moving way too fast. I wish he would slow down. I think he is infatuated and obsessed with her...how do you love someone after a month?
I think he's very blessed to have you as a sister. Different people have different "Love Languages." When I read the book on "Love Languages" it became so clear to me that people who had never spoken the words, "I Love You," had said it millions of times throughout my life. Some express love through service, and learning your favorite meal and cooking it when you come. Some are gifted with verbalizing their feelings. Others are gift givers and express by buying things they think you'd like. There are so many love languages, and ways to express it. I would imagine Gift Givers are taken advantage of more so than others. Many people have a more than one love language.
I think I'm service and gift. I loved surprising my ex with gifts and "prizes" during our marriage. I cooked our meals, and had her favorite recipes memorized. I knew the preferred temp of her bubble-bath when she got home from work(the one year she worked) and heated the water a little extra so there'd be time for a foot rub to catch up on her day. When she dried off, supper was served- I worked nights- so I had to get up early if I was going to get to see her.
I should have noticed that I couldn't tell you what hers was, earlier- but,...
Dr. Seuss says, "Don't cry because its over, smile because it happened."
I learned a lot and matured years ahead of my time being married young- and it is part of who I am. Sometimes I get an adrenaline rush, and think I've lost my ring when I feel it missing. Then I remember the "right one" is out there, and we will cross paths when the time is right. I believe that- and so I go on.
He'll eventually find his way- but until then, he's got an Awesome Sister who has his back- and more importantly- a female perspective to clarify reality, that we men sometimes drift from
Last edit by BostonTerrierLoverRN on Jan 7, '13