I'm tired of being single.

  1. I work nights and when i'm off, i'm at home recovering from my previous shifts. I'm not seeing anyone or have even come across anyone. Nursing is a predominantly female field and there are very few male nurses. On the floor that i work, there is only one male nurse who is married and one male secretary who is 50 year old. I'm 30 y.o and I'm just so ready to date. I barely go anywhere because i'm always home sleeping or when I get up its in the middle of the night. I've tried dating sites , actually just one (OKCupid) and all anyone wanted was sex .Do you guys have any tips on meeting people?
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  2. 49 Comments

  3. by   ChellyFutureNP
    I used to do night shifts and on our nights off, my friends and i go to the clubs. Or sometimes we would pick a weekend and drive somewhere where we could meet new people and stay there so we could also enjoy ourselves. Do u get invited to parties? That's another way u could meet new people. Ever floated to other floors? I meet nurses from other floors then i would go to their birthdays or other parties... Just have fun, explore, dont be afraid to go out there and enjoy yourself. ;-) so much fun!
  4. by   BrandonLPN
    I'm not trying to be rude, but I find it odd that you seem to think dating a coworker is your only option, aside from online dating sites. Have you considered that you may be subconsciously using working nights as an excuse not to date? Dating a coworker on your unit isn't exactly an ideal situation in the first place.
  5. by   Anonymous865
    Get involved in an activity that you enjoy.

    If you enjoy hiking join a hiking or a trail maintenance club.

    If you enjoy biking, join a group that rides. The local bike shops will have lists of riding groups and when, where they ride.

    Take a non-credit class. For example take a class in investing or financial planning or a class on local history. Take a golf or yoga class.

    Volunteer. Help plan a fundraiser for the symphony, ballet, or museum. Help with free or low cost medical care for the working poor. Help build a Habitat for Humanity house.

    The goal is to increase the number of people you meet while doing something you enjoy. Having a full, active life will make you a more interesting person which will make you more attractive to the opposite sex.

    Have fun.
  6. by   Lev <3
    Meetup.com?
  7. by   MrChicagoRN
    Quote from Lev <3
    Meetup.com?
    Yes. That's what I was going to suggest. Not a dating service, but appears to be a good way to connect with people that share common interests.

    Gotta get out there and do things if you want things to change. Good luck to you.
  8. by   vanilla bean
    Get out of the house! It's a 24/7 world out there! I had a pretty active social life when I worked night shift. Meeting friends for dinner/drinks, going shopping, to the movies, to the gym, etc. I'm married, so I wasn't looking to meet a significant other, but I often found myself in environments conducive to such pursuits.

    I married before the proliferation of dating sites and the online options of meeting people, so I'm kind of speculating about what I may do in your situation, but I think that even if I struck out meeting quality people on one site, I would check out others.

    Good luck! Have fun!
  9. by   JoseQuinones
    Church.

    I was an avowed atheist. I got desperate for female company. I got invited to church. I thought, "What's the worst that can happen?" I met a nice Christian girl, and seven happy years of marriage later, I am somewhere between agnostic and born again. She is wonderful.
  10. by   BrandonLPN
    Quote from JoseQuinones
    Church.

    I was an avowed atheist. I got desperate for female company. I got invited to church. I thought, "What's the worst that can happen?" I met a nice Christian girl, and seven happy years of marriage later, I am somewhere between agnostic and born again. She is wonderful.
    There's a pretty vast gap between agnostic and born again.
  11. by   RescueNinjaKy
    Tindr but state you're not looking for just sex.
  12. by   Red Kryptonite
    Quote from BrandonLPN
    There's a pretty vast gap between agnostic and born again.
    And? Sometimes people know they're in between but not exactly where. At least he's open-minded.
  13. by   Libby1987
    If mostly what you do is catch up on sleep, how will you have time for a relationship?

    I think Meet Up and getting involved in activities that you like is the first step. Find or create the time and energy for a social life. And then maybe online so you can look for others with a similar schedule.
  14. by   Mr. Murse
    Even on a night shift schedule you're still awake by mid-late afternoon. That leaves you the whole evening to share with the "day walkers", which is really the time most people meet anyway (in the evenings). I think you're placing too much blame on your hours.

    Consider to continue trying dating sites for one thing. Of course there are going to be plenty of guys on there just looking for sex, but that's true no matter where you go whether it be the bar or even church. Go out with friends for drinks, or to eat, or to the gym, or to coffeeshops, etc. Join meetup.com and find people with similar interests. Just get out and make yourself available, basically, doesn't matter how.

    Also, don't be afraid to initiate contact with guys you're attracted to. It's 2015, you can do that now. Everything functions differently socially now and there's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a guy.

    So, what state are you from? Want to go out sometime? heheh. ;-)

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