Dating Hot MEN

  1. Last weekend, a girlfriend of mine was picked up by this bad pretty boy and she left us to go with him with the inevitable consequences. Thing is, not ten minutes before we were actually discussing the same guy who had been louder than his other friends and was obviously the alpha in his group. One of us pointed out that he was her type in the past and thank God she had sworn off guys like him because we were tired of picking up the pieces. Inevitably, he heads over and like a heat seeking missile, selected her.


    She capitulated with the inevitable consequences. How did he know that she alone would have succumbed? We are all attractive women and he was able like a predator, able to select the only person who would fall for his antics.


    I think, they can sense by eye contact, who is vulnerable. He came over and our body language told him who was interested by who actually looked at him. All of my other six girlfriends will not date pretty boys or bad boys. Personally, he has to be interesting re conversations and able to banter. Looks have little meaning including fitness levels. Relatively fit is good enough for me. Very afraid of vain people. I need an interesting mind to keep me occupied. I need confidence as well and eye contact is very important. I do not need a man to physically satisfy me so it solves an enormous problem. I need psychological stimulation through considered conversation. Any topic, but statements have to be considered. That is my main criteria.


    What is yours and why?
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  2. 12 Comments

  3. by   Ruas61
    This might be better in the Breakroom section.
  4. by   RiskManager
    I self-identify as a pretty boy.
  5. by   tnbutterfly
  6. by   Avid reader
    Quote from RiskManager
    I self-identify as a pretty boy.
    So Risk Manager, what's your take on this subject? My friend does it because she's a bit shallow and the risks outweighs the reward I guess, although I doubt it. She's always dissatisfied with their rewards, for want of a better word. She also says fitter guys are better protectors. Personally, I want someone who can identify before hand, incidents or geography I might need protection from. Each to their own, I surmise?
  7. by   Davey Do
    Quote from RiskManager
    I self-identify as a pretty boy.
    Of course you do, Risk Manager. You do have a reputation, you know.
    Quote from RiskManager
    I want to be the Ted Buckland character. Not much of a stretch.


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    Quote from RiskManager
    The resemblance is striking!
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  9. by   Tweety
    Sounds like a bunch of stereotyping and pre-deciding that someone that happens to be good looking is a certain way.
  10. by   Avid reader
    Quote from Tweety
    Sounds like a bunch of stereotyping and pre-deciding that someone that happens to be good looking is a certain way.
    Not all good looking people are shallow but the ones who makes a massive effort and their self esteem appears to be wrapped up in their looks, are to be avoided. Good looks fade, but self esteem and insightfulness only gets better and more attractive. Such people are always interesting and makes life so much better.
  11. by   Tweety
    I can agree with that if you make the effort to get to know them and not dismiss them based on prejudice on how one feels about their looks. It hurts to be called "stuck on yourself", "good looking but dumb as dirt", "dumb blonde" or "arrogant".

    Just sayin'.

    But yeah, vain people are a vexation to the soul. There are plenty of intelligent people that are just as vain about their brains, not wanting to mingle with people they think are beneath them. These people actually have no self-esteem either and are totally uninteresting.
  12. by   Avid reader
    Quote from Tweety
    I can agree with that if you make the effort to get to know them and not dismiss them based on prejudice on how one feels about their looks. It hurts to be called "stuck on yourself", "good looking but dumb as dirt", "dumb blonde" or "arrogant".

    Just sayin'.

    But yeah, vain people are a vexation to the soul. There are plenty of intelligent people that are just as vain about their brains, not wanting to mingle with people they think are beneath them. These people actually have no self-esteem either and are totally uninteresting.
    Tweety, but can they really be considered intelligent? Lots of qualifications or ability to retain enough information to conduct passable conversations, doesn't actually signify intelligence. I think curiosity and interest in a person are the qualities that demonstrates intelligence for me. Even vain people are interesting except you cannot really allow them to tell you their story on their terms because it will always be narcissistic inclined and frequently very similar. Their pathology on the other hand and its origins are a different ball game and getting that information from them is difficult. It will be concealed under many layers of lies and obfuscation to reveal how the Insecurity developed. I cannot be bothered however unless it's in a clinical setting because unfortunately most empathetic people will succumb to the interaction and find something to identify with and be drawn in. And, almost every time there will be misery littered through such relationships.


    Yup, vain people should be treated very carefully as with a rose stem with thorns!
    Unfortunately our country seems to be awashed with vain people, all judging others based on their looks instead of say a more northern European approach. Frequently in Sweden and it's not unusual for business to be conducted in jeans and t-shirts if they can get away with it. If you produce results, that's the only thing that matters. No one is obsessed by teeth or weight or clothes etc, in fact they actually appear to not even be interested in you which can be disconcerting because of how nosy our culture is. Then you realize that they actually have lives and have no need to live vicariously, unlike us. Our obsession with celebrities etc and worse, that we envy and seek out their lifestyles despite the overwhelming evidence of how deeply unhappy their lives are and lonely.
  13. by   Tweety
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    Tweety, but can they really be considered intelligent?
    Sure, just like a "hot man" is a "hot man", an intelligent person is intelligent...in that perhaps they have a high IQ, are well read, etc. and are considered intelligent people.

    However, as you point out it's their actions that are not attractive, both in the beautiful and the intelligent.

    What I really don't like is people that judge. Once when I was at a bowling alley I heard someone talk about me in the bathroom at a tournament "oh you're bowling against that cute guy...he seems arrogant". This guy hadn't been 10 ft near me and was basing his assessment of me on looks only, but at least the other guy said I was nice. I'm shy and introverted and that's interpreted wrongly many time in my life. Once when in nursing school I was talking to a guy that might have had some interest and I told him I worked for Pizza Hut and he said "oh how droll......" and moved on as if that one description defined who I was. Another said "Oh I'd kill myself I made such low wages....". At least they took the time to talk to me. LOL

    Of course at my age, I can't judge and say "I'm no longer dating hot men" because at my age they are in no way shape or form interested in me...unless it's that daddy-son scene. LOL
    Last edit by Tweety on Apr 15
  14. by   Avid reader
    Tweety, some of my girlfriends have that same problem re Insecurity and I have to frequently dare them or talk them into asking a guy out they like. The secret is to try and forget that you are trying to get their No. If you can get anyone to talk to you for more than three minutes, you are well in. Just be interested in something sensible when you approach them. Women have to get over that it is the man's job to ask you out. I date younger guys all the time but only for fun, not the physical, because in my experience unless they are over 28, they are pretty much useless. I like younger men's energy and stupidity and the babbling and boasting. I prefer men over 40, they are much better in every Dept. I like confident, secure men who are passionate about knowledge. I rarely have found pretty men with those qualities.

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