Dating for nurses

  1. How on earth do y'all meet people? I'm newly single and I work night shift. I haven't really dated since high school (we were high school sweethearts) recently, I tried the online dating sites that I have heard of (POF, zoosk, etc) but they were AWFUL. I have met a few guys in person but none of them seem to get what nurses deal with. My ex is a first responder and I'm curious if there are any sites for medical and first responders lol

    That being said, how the heck do y'all meet people when you work crazy hours??
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  3. by   Been there,done that
    Plenty of opportunities at work. I was dating a doctor and a nurse at the same time.
    Relax and enjoy!
  4. by   NightNerd
    I met my boyfriend of two years at work on night shift. I'd been single for a year and a half, ish, and had done some online dating, had friends set me up, etc. Work was supposed to be my prospect-free zone, so I was pretty bummed that I had to start looking cute there too, lol. For real, though, he is wonderful, and it's awesome to be with someone who understands what this job is like. I have met a lot of other great guys in my two and a half nursing jobs - doctors, other nurses, security officers, etc., so I would say there's a fair chance that you'll meet someone you click with through work. If not directly, maybe your nurse friends can set you up with people they know.

    I don't know of any medical/human services dating sites, lol, but I met some nice people through Match. I was on for maybe two months and then got off to focus on my new job. It's a nice way to get yourself out there and remember what it's like to date, but I didn't just love it; I know others who have met their partners online pretty quickly, though.

    My advice: focus on the new job, making friends there, and rediscovering who you are without the last boyfriend. It sounds like a fairly recent break-up with a long-term partner, so it's good to spend some time on just you. (I know that is easier said than done - after five years with the same guy, I know I had no idea what to do with myself!). But it's nice to figure out who you really are on your own, so when you meet new people you can recognize who you naturally fit with. Just my experience, for what it's worth.
  5. by   KelRN215
    I went on a date with someone from Match once and he asked me what kind of patients I see. At the time I was a visiting nurse in pediatrics. I specifically remember the look of horror on his face as I told him about one of my infant patients who had hypoxic ischemic encephalopathy because of severe shoulder dystocia during delivery.

    I met my significant other through a meetup group. We played trivia together as friends every Monday for a little over a year before we started dating. I was working a M-F job at the time though so could attend these things.
  6. by   purplegal
    I met my boyfriend after my first nursing job failed and I had to return to a former place of employment. We had worked together for years but didn't start dating until I came back.
  7. by   Davey Do
    Quote from poopylala
    That being said, how the heck do y'all meet people when you work crazy hours??
    Give it up. Stop looking and it will find you.

    Back in May of '06 , I had been separated from my-ex wife for about a year. The marriage prognosis did not look good. I remember thinking, and even drew a cartoon in my journal, of just letting everything go.

    I was working 8 & 12 hour MN shifts, am basically asocial, and saw no prospects for the future. Lo and behold a medical nurse named Belinda was assigned to work GeroPsych with me for 4 hours on June 6th, 2006.

    We hit it off, I asked her out for coffee and the rest is history.

    We've been together for over 11 years now.
  8. by   henneson thomas
    I also seek for dating if any one of you can look for it is
  9. by   traumaRUs
    Moved to Dating/Relationship forum
  10. by   elkpark
    Over the course of my career, I've met people the same way everyone else does. Other than the scheduling, I'm not sure how much "what nurses deal with" has to do with anything. My career hasn't impinged significantly on my romantic relationships. Other people have difficult and stressful jobs, too.
  11. by   Ruby Vee
    I met both my ex and my current husband at work -- fellow nurses. In between, I met a guy at the dog park. I was there early in the evening (after I woke up after working night shift) and my golden retriever kept stealing the balls he was throwing for his labs. We started talking, hit it off, and were together for four years. Night shift meant we weren't together every evening -- he was a lawyer and had pretty consistent hours. I actually think that helped the relationship last longer than it should have. It's possible to meet people and to date, even with our "flexible schedules." If you've already decided that you want a first responder, I don't know how to advise you. Maybe work in the ER and chat up every first responder who brings in a patient?

    Meeting people is difficult. I'm not going to minimize that. But I think you limit yourself unnecessarily when you decide ahead of time that you want to meet someone who does a specific job.

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