Dating again after a 15 year hiatus

  1. And at age 44 too

    Was wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation, out of the dating pool for a long time

    Last time I dated was before the 9/11 attacks.
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  3. by   BCgradnurse
    I was married for 24 years, and then divorced a few years ago. It was tough jumping back into that pool. I didn't know what the "rules" were or how to meet someone. You kinda just have to close your eyes and jump. be smart, be a bit skeptical, but don't close yourself off to the possibilities. I did meet someone online and he is wonderful. I think writing my profile was the hardest part. I really wanted to say "I want someone to go to dinners, movies, and concerts with, but otherwise leave me alone!". Obviously, that doesn't fly. I also found it hard to not take rejection personally. Not everyone you want to talk to will want to reciprocate. Do not go down the "what's wrong with me? road"!!! It takes time. You will fine tune your profile over time and discover what's important to you in a potential partner. Above all, try to have fun with it. It's a new adventure!
  4. by   Farawyn
    I'm not dating, been married for 23 years "and we never had a fight!" Kidding.

    2 of my best friends are online dating, one woman, one man.
    The woman is discouraged. She is my age and completely gorgeous, educated, funny. She is going older and all the older men want younger. In RL, she can meet and hook up with someone 10 years younger , or more- never a problem. But she doesn't want hookups. She has 2 kids. I think she's taking a break from it for now. She did Zoosk- OH, and Zoosk also suggested her ex husband as match for her, which they both through was hilarious.

    The man just jumped into the pool again, and met someone almost immediately. He is in his early 30s and heterosexual. I hope it works out for him. He's had bad luck in the past. He is doing OKCupid.

    My old manager went on and is married now, very happy.

    For all my joking, I think a profile must be hard to write. Have to get the right mix of humblebrag and humor.
    Last edit by Farawyn on Feb 12, '16
  5. by   honeyforasalteyfish
    I am taking a hiatus, or so I thought I was. Now I find myself falling for a girl again...... Don't really want to go into details. Suffice it to say we are becoming closer as friends, and the thought both excites, and terrifies me. Its shall we say complicated. Likely nothing will come of it, but unless I am totally blind there is something there...... Its strange for this to develop so soon, after deciding not to date.... We both seem to find excuses to be around each other..... Unless I am mistaken... Perhaps only friendship is meant, and that would be great, but if its more I am unsure how to procede I rather like her. Still with my workload I don't have much time for a new relationship. I don't know I suppose no one ever does.

    Good luck Joe, I think you would be a fine catch for a lucky lady.
  6. by   honeyforasalteyfish
    Quote from Farawyn
    The man just jumped into the pool again, and met someone almost immediately. He is in his early 30s and heterosexual. I hope it works out for him. He's had bad luck in the past. He is doing OKCupid.
    Met several Xs on that sight. Nothing seemed to last for me. I think it was because I just wasn't happy. I was either being dumped, or dumping because I thought it wouldn't work. At the time I was working 60 hours a week. So I had money, but you know I would spend it on... well dating...
    Hard to stick around when you are miserable all the time.

    Now I am flat broke, but happy. Strange when I was making money I hated my life. Now that I am pursuing something I am passionate about I am happy most of the time. If not all of the time.
  7. by   BCgradnurse
    I met my SO on Match. We've been together for almost 2 years. One of my friends met her husband there, too. Dating sites used to be thought of as a joke, but nowadays, it's so hard to meet people. Might as well use technology!

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