Are you happy being single? - page 5

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  1. Visit  joanna73 profile page
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    Quote from Poi Dog
    I do miss being in a relationship but not enough that I am actively looking. If it happens, it happens.

    I have been single for 6 months...a record for me
    Try 5 years. I enjoy being alone. I'm also not willing to compromise my values. I broke up with my BF two weeks after nursing school started. I didn't want any distractions and he was getting annoying.

    My RN is more important than some fleeting relationship. I'm getting too old to have a baby....so I have mixed feelings about that. Kids at 40 don't do it for me. I'll have to be content with my friends and my travels. Maybe by the time I'm 80, the right guy will show up.
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  2. Visit  Poi Dog profile page
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    My coworkers give me grief about being single. My hits too-close-to-home reply is: "Yeah but at least I am happy. All you ever do is whine and talk bad about your husband/boyfriend. Guess who has the better deal?"

    That usually shuts em up.

    *can you tell I am not interested in winning a popularity contest?*
    Last edit by Poi Dog on Nov 25, '11
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  3. Visit  Black Jade profile page
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    How do you answer when you are introduced to people and they ask you about your marital status? It happened to me when my supervisors and I had a luncheon with one of the companies we deal with. Everybody was going around the table introducing themselves and they were talking about family. I got up to go to the restroom hoping that by the time I came back, they changed topics. Nope. They were still on the same topic. For some reason, I feel ashamed to say that I'm single and feel the need to explain why. I guess, because I don't want them to feel sorry for me.

    When one of my co-workers who wanted to set me up with one of her male friends, asked me if I wanted kids; I cringed. At my age, I honestly do not know if I will be able to have a child or even deal with one. The idea of moving in or living together also doesn't appeal to me. I don't know if that makes me selfish. I would love to meet somebody, but at the same time I love my independence and my freedom.

    Before, when Holidays were approaching I would be stressed out about planning not to be alone especially New Years' Eve. Also, Holidays are tough when you are invited to get-togethers and all you see around you are couples. This year, instead of moping around because I don't have a date, I decided to stay home, watch movies and just relax. I learned to embraced my singlehood. It's not because there is something wrong with me, but because it's not my time yet to meet the right person.
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  4. Visit  WillowNMe profile page
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    I'm 24, and not going to lie, I haven't been in any sort of relationship for the past couple of years. I worked full time while going to nursing school full time. I graduated this past spring, found a really great job that I love... most of my friends would say I pretty much have my poop together. With all of this "extra time" all of a sudden (AKA: only working a 3-4 days a week with a one day recovery), I did try to the online dating thing. That was a no go, ended my subscription and won't be renewing it.

    Part of the issue is I don't hang out with people my own age, nor do I really live the life of a normal 24 year old. Sometimes it makes me sad - I never lived on campus, never studied abroad, wasn't really invited when classmates went out... but the other part of me loves it - I have a kick butt house out in the country, I get to spend time with my family, friends and horse, I have a great job that I love that pays well, I do travel... I guess I sort of feel like the last thing left is finding someone to share life with, you know? Sounds cheesy when I say it, but...
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  5. Visit  orangepink profile page
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    Yes. On some days or nights, it can get lonely but overall, I'm happy to be single. I've heard enough horror stories about failed relationships and/or marriages that I'm more cautious with who I end up with. I'd rather be single than be in a relationship or marriage full of drama.
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  6. Visit  Poi Dog profile page
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    Quote from orangepink
    Yes. On some days or nights, it can get lonely but overall, I'm happy to be single. I've heard enough horror stories about failed relationships and/or marriages that I'm more cautious with who I end up with. I'd rather be single than be in a relationship or marriage full of drama.
    Yes, to the bolded. I have become super picky about who I spend time with too!
    Still single here and so not looking. Can flirt with anyone I want to and not feel as though I have sinned

    One of my coworkers is always fighting with her bf and I am just like, who needs that ish? lol
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  7. Visit  FranEMTnurse profile page
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    Poi, I refused to allow others to pressure me into getting married or to allow others to hook me up with eligible people who other people thought I should get romantically involved with. I got married when I was 24 to a person I chose as my partner. We had 2 children.
    Today, I am a very happy widow who loves being single, and don't have time to get lonely. My children, grandchildren, and friends fill my life.
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  8. Visit  vegas2009 profile page
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    A work friend of mine who I sometimes hang out with on breaks, told me about her bf for over 2 years now. Anyway, I tried to listen to every detail she told me about the dude. We talked after work at the break room (a few weeks ago) and all I can honestly think about was eating my KFC chicken at home. Also, flossing and taking a shower and eventually going to bed! That's how much I was sooo tired from work that day! Anyway, let's call her "L". Her story is, her bf wanted her to agree on marrying him and eventually get married in six months. She said, they're both stubborn, she's not ready and she wants her freedom, blah, blah, blah. . . my eyes are about to fall out of my face for sitting there, because I really wanted to just get home! lol.

    Then, she told me that she just wanted about 2 to 3 years (for him to wait for her), then she can finally commit to marrying him. She plans to go to nursing school in Cali. for Spring 2013, if she gets accepted. Hello, lottery system?? Also, she plans to go to Japan this year and meet up with her friend there.

    I don't really ask her personal questions and stuff, when we talk at work. We just talk about day to day stuff, laugh, etc. But, when she first told me about her friend in Japan -- I thought she was a dude (with the way she was talking about her). Until "L" told me it was a woman.

    Hmmm... so I thought, maybe she's a little gay? OR NOT, since she plans to marry her "bf" in 2 to 3 years? I dunno.
    Haha. I just told her she has drama (just like everyone else). But, honestly, I think she is definitely NOT in love with her "bf" and probably questioning her sexuality ---> No, I didn't tell her this --- Since, this is something she needs to figure out herself. And oh, she's Jehovah's witness, so --- how can she be gay? She quite possibly has comittment issues too. All I can is, I wish I was still 25 and I wouldn't mind having problems like her. LOL. "If I could just turn back time" (Cher).
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  9. Visit  Do-over profile page
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    No, I am not. I was, when I was much younger and before I met "the one". Well, things didn't work out with him and I in the long run, but it spoiled me for the single life. When it was good, it was the best thing ever. Before, I didn't know what I was missing.

    There is a lot that is good about being single, but it certainly gets lonely and I have been single a long time. It isn't a life I would choose, but there are certainly worse things. And, to be honest, I often feel defensive about being single. So sick of people questioning my sexuality (I doubt I could form a lasting relationship with a woman either!) and sick of feeling "abnormal" because I can't get a date.

    To be fair (to myself) I have been asked out a couple times in the last few years. Both guys lived over 2 hours drive away. Really?
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  10. Visit  Tofayelbd profile page
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    Men can't live alone, always I expect a good life partner.
  11. Visit  wish_me_luck profile page
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    I am happy being single. I am not saying that I would automatically say "no" to dating someone. But, I don't feel like I need someone. At times, I feel like the best thing in my situation is to be single. It makes things less complicated and I can accomplish what I want without someone telling me "no". I have moments when I am so happy (and I am by myself) and then, the moment I am with people, my happiness is dashed.

    I am finally getting to a point at which I do love myself and it is people that put me down. The best thing at this time is to avoid people when I can and fulfill my goals in life.
  12. Visit  Tweety profile page
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    Quote from Do-over
    No, I am not. I was, when I was much younger and before I met "the one". Well, things didn't work out with him and I in the long run, but it spoiled me for the single life. When it was good, it was the best thing ever. Before, I didn't know what I was missing.

    There is a lot that is good about being single, but it certainly gets lonely and I have been single a long time. It isn't a life I would choose, but there are certainly worse things. And, to be honest, I often feel defensive about being single. So sick of people questioning my sexuality (I doubt I could form a lasting relationship with a woman either!) and sick of feeling "abnormal" because I can't get a date.

    To be fair (to myself) I have been asked out a couple times in the last few years. Both guys lived over 2 hours drive away. Really?
    Don't feel bad, the last guy I dated lived in El Paso, Texas, and I live in Florida. That was over a year ago. LOL

    Two hours away sounds nice...plenty of alone time in between visits. When my ex started traveling, I didn't realize that I liked being alone, but was never gone for long, so I had the best of both worlds.

    I know what you mean when you've had a taste of a good lasting relationship and find yourself long term single again. I was in a relationship 10 years. There was nothing like having someone that I thought I was the greatest person in the world, that supported me and visa versa, someone to talk to and cuddle with.

    I find myself getting wear of being defensive too..."you've been single five years now? You don't want to date anyone? You travel alone???"
  13. Visit  Do-over profile page
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    Quote from Tweety
    Don't feel bad, the last guy I dated lived in El Paso, Texas, and I live in Florida. That was over a year ago. LOL

    Two hours away sounds nice...plenty of alone time in between visits. When my ex started traveling, I didn't realize that I liked being alone, but was never gone for long, so I had the best of both worlds.

    I know what you mean when you've had a taste of a good lasting relationship and find yourself long term single again. I was in a relationship 10 years. There was nothing like having someone that I thought I was the greatest person in the world, that supported me and visa versa, someone to talk to and cuddle with.

    I find myself getting wear of being defensive too..."you've been single five years now? You don't want to date anyone? You travel alone???"
    I hear ya on the 2 hours distance... EXCEPT that I was not at all sure I was interested enough to make that drive often, and if they came to me - then what if I can't get rid of them?!? What if they start leaving a toothbrush, or want a drawer cleaned out for them?!? And, the kiss of death for social lives everywhere - I work 12 hour night shifts.

    Probably one of the BEST things about being single is traveling alone. Sweet sweet freedom.

    Switching to days soon. It will be interesting to see how the other half lives again.

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