Ok, lets talk turkey....About Peri-Menopause... - page 2

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Is it just me, or does this peri-menopause business just suck the life out of one?????... Read More


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    There is a HUGE advantage to being menopausal if you have cats! You don't have to run all around the house two minutes before company is due to arrive looking for and picking up Tampax "mice."
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    Quote from sharpeimom
    There is a HUGE advantage to being menopausal if you have cats! You don't have to run all around the house two minutes before company is due to arrive looking for and picking up Tampax "mice."
    Ha! Ha! Ha!
    I just have to be on the look out for my teenage daughter's!
    I make her keep her bathroom door closed to keep the cat and dog out now.

    I'm 43 and I've been done with periods for two years now.
    The hot flashes have mostly passed, but they were horrendous!
    I had to have my own sheet and blanket because I was throwing them off and on all dang night!
    My poor husband!
    I even kept a cooling pad in my bed, I was so miserable.

    The worst part was the killer hypothyroidism and menopause combo.
    Oh, joy!
    I went from a size 10 to a darn 14 and was pushing a 16 when I finally convinced my doc to up my levothyroxine.
    I'm back down to a 12 and am looking and feeling much better, thank goodness.
    I try to stay active and have upped my exercise.
    I also know I can't eat the way I used to

    Personally, I'm glad I went through it already and am done.

    Both my mom and grandma began in their thirties, so I guess it's no surprise I did too.
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    I know little about the subject. My grandmother, mother, sister, daughter, and I all had to have hysts due to massive issues. I do have one sister who managed to remain intact and she has had episodic bleeding well into her late 60's. It has been checked out multiple times and she is OK.

    I went on Premarin about 1 year after the surg. I had a surgical menopause even though I still had my ovaries. Pretty much the same story for my mom and my daughter. My DD was the only once ever dx'ed with cancer but all of us think it is a genetic thing. I suspect we all had cancer cells not IDed. Now my one grand niece is following the same path.

    I have been off HRT for about 5 years. Had been off them once before but even I could not stand myself then. I still get hot flashes and night sweats. I accept I will have them forever. I always dress in layers to take off and put on many times a day. I usually don't soak the sheets but nightgowns sometimes don't make it all night.

    Every one of us agrees we are much better off without the excessive bleeding, pain, infections, etc. There are good reasons to get a hysterectomy. In my family only the gay sister has been spared the need for one.
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    Yes, it does suck the life out of you! I'm 52 and recently went on HRT cause I couldn't take the hot flashes, the sleepness nights, and the fact that my brain didn't seem to work so well anymore. I feel like a new woman now. Hot flashes are gone, I sleep well, and I can concentrate and keep a train of thought now. I don't know how long I'll stay on the HRT, but it's doing a wonderful job so far.
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    Quote from Spidey's mom
    I was listening to NYU Docs on Sirius Radio last night and the subject was peri-menopause and sexual issues. The doctor's recommendation for all the issues surrounding peri-menopause (when you are still menstruating) was a low-dose birth control pill. It helps with the mood swings, the fatigue, etc.

    I am in menopause now but my peri-menopause time started in my late 30's. Surprise baby at 44. Menopause at 51 and glad of it.

    Still have hot flashes . .. they come and go.
    It really has helped with period regulation for me. They were coming around every 18 days and the periods could last 8 days, sometimes more. I would also have PMT that would last a week instead of just the day or two before, tender breasts, discomfort etc. It got to the point where there was only around one week of every month when I felt "fine".
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    I hate hot flashes!!!! I started having night sweats at 36, and started having the pleasure of hot flashes at age 50 They occur 24 hrs a day, 7 days a week. I truly hate them. They have most definitely affected my quality of life, day and night. I've tried everything - HRT, OTC and natural remedies with no success. None. The only thing I haven't tried is Premarin crème because I'm against it in principle. The NP I see doesn't know what else I can try. She said I'm just one of those women who'll probably live with these forever. I can't bear the thought!!! I'm even trying to find an acupuncturist, but I'm in a very rural area and there isn't one within 1 1/2 hrs driving time.
    The only thing that remotely even helps is a frozen ice pak that I keep in a sock next to me at night. Problem is, it gets warm from me using it too much and melts. I thought about the "chill pillow" but I read too many review saying it leaked.
    Ah well, I continue my quest...my poor husband..we've been dealing with this for 20 years and it's awful At least I've found some folks I can commiserate with. Most of my coworkers are in their 30's and don't really get it (yet!)
    mc3
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    When I was 37 (and married to my DH about three months) I was minding my own business sitting on the john and pulled out the tampon to change it...and a clot the size of a 20cc syringe went flying down between my feet. And we were off and running. Called my GYN, a wonderful guy; he called in a prescription for methergine (oooooh, ouch) and that turned it off like a faucet. Poor DH-- his first wife wouldn't let him touch her when she was menstruating, and he was afraid of the whole thing. (I did teach him better )

    Next month, same song, same verse. D&C, scared my poor husband half to death, but god bless my doc, the first words out of his mouth to him were, "She doesn't have cancer." No real pathology found, no fibroids, no nothing. Better for a month. Then back to the big clots.

    Endometrial ablation was new in those years, and he almost sent me to NYC to have one, but a guy nearby started doing them. So I got the laminaria in my cervix to dilate it for 24 hours before (ooooh, ouch) (and this the day JCAHO was coming and I had to go right back to the hospital). OR nurses were nervous-- new doc, new procedure, and a patient who refused sedation and wanted to know what was happening. "Why don't you lie there and just have your surgery?" snapped one at me, honest to god. Smoke drifting up between my knees, smelled like barbecue as they fried the endometrium away. Nobody told me (and maybe nobody knew) that I would have excruciating pain on the way home as my bladder filled up. I learned to pee early and often for a few days. Then...nothing, no pain, no bleeding, no periods. Hotcha!

    And then two months later, I had some cramps (I NEVER had cramps before). I bent over to pick something up and had a sudden pain and a big gush. Crap. Turned out that there were some little lacunae of functioning endometrium nailed in behind scar tissue, and they still menstruated, and when the collections got big enough, they would tear their way out. Oh, NIFTY. Next month I was in the ER with such pain I couldn't believe it, I got admitted. Large-handed surgeon did an internal, got a huge gush, and I got a good night's sleep on Demerol.

    Month after that, I recognized the signs. Kept myself NPO, took my hairbrush and toothbrush to work, called my GYN, said, "I know you have block time in the OR this afternoon-- I'm having a hyst. See you then." "Are you sure? Are you NPO?" he sputtered. "Yep," sez I, "unless you'd like to have me call you at ten tonight, today's the day." So it was done. He said it was so big and taut he wondered if I was pregnant, but he knew I wanted no more kids anyway, so took the chance and yanked it. Accompanied it to the pathology department, where the path guy said, "Wow, this woman must have been in pain!"

    End of story. Since I told him that if he touched my ovaries without a damn good reason I'd make him sorry, he left them . I cleaned out all the stuff under the bathroom sink and gave it to my daughter, had a few indifferent hot flashes about 8 years later (barely distinguishable from "Is the cat sleeping on my head again, or am I having a hot flash?", and that was it. My grandmother and mother had negligible menopauses (grandmother thought she was pregnant at 55 at the same time as my mother; we would have taken the baby and acted as if they were twins), so I guess it's a lucky break.
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    Quote from Hygiene Queen

    The worst part was the killer hypothyroidism and menopause combo.
    Tell me more about this. I've been on thyroid med for a long time but I am not so sure I am being medicated appropriately.
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    Of course, we can't give medical advice here. But it is well known that women often become hypothyroid around perimenopause. Seen a real reproductive endocrinologist?

    Raise your hands if you're on thyroid replacement now!

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    My TSH has always been normal. However, since I have cold intolerance, hair loss, weight issues, periodic depression and pretty much every other symptom and risk factor in the book, my psychiatrist decided to run a full set of thyroid tests to see if it really was as normal as the TSH indicated.

    They all came back totally within normal limits. It wouldn't have changed my MH diagnosis, but it might have explained why I'm always freezing! LOL


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